"If you go into mania can you come back out of it your self or do you have to have your medication readjusted? "

They usually suddenly switch to depression. That could be days, weeks, months. The higher the high, the lower the low.

You need therapy and support for yourself. Unless you get her committed there probably isn't much you can do and you need to come to terms with that.

Thankyou, we got her medication sorted. Now she has gone into this stage where she is really angry & mean about everything. It's so hard. This is what happened last time. Nothing me or my sister do is right or fast enough or good enough etc. And we can't even get mad cos it's not her fault really it's the illness. But it hurts sook much to be treated that way by ur mother.

It won't be much comfort to you but it's not a lot of fun for the person either having experienced that kind of impatience myself.

I've been where you are. I know how hard it is. Make sure you get the help you need. Somwtimes you can do everything and it will still not be enough. I can say that honestly. I did everything I could for my mom who is a little older than yours I think. She was so ill physically and mentally that after 2 months in hospital we arrnaged for a nursing home. She just this week appealed to the board to have her capacity given back to her, meaning she wants to be the one making her choices. We had a hearing yesterday and will know the result by Monday. If she gets her way then she intends to move into an apt. of her own. We all know that this will be the beginning of the end for her. I know I did all I could in her best interest but sometimes that is just not all it takes and they have to do things their way. I am thinking of you. All you can do is what you feel is the best, no one will fault you. This is an illness and it is particulary hard when you are unable to get the person to understand the state they are in. What the court needs to decide for my mom is - does she understand the dangers present if she lives on her own. I know she doesn't, did she show the court she did or did not. If she gets out I know I did everything, but I will have to take a step back and just love her but I can no longer help her. I cannot sacrafice my family to constantly be checking up on her and running crazy when she is out all night or doesn't show for appt. I know she will fail and I hope someone will be there to find her but I can't be me any longer. It makes me sad and I feel like I am a terrible daughter but I can no longer live that life. I know I am rambling on now about me and I am sorry this is about you. You just need to know that sometimes you can force all the help in the world on someone and in the end, it is still not enough as here they can take the Dr. to court and fight the decisions. All I can do now is love her. If she stays in the nursing home then I will continue to help as I have been because the job I have been doing is worth something even if she doesn't like it. I have been where you are with the mental anguish of your own and no I did not seek professional help. I think maybe I should have but I have a large busy family of my own who depends on me and I don't get time to do much for myself. If you can find the time get the help. My family was very supportive and if I didn't have them I'd have been a basketcase myself.

Thankyou Darlene38 :) Things are going ok atm. But its still hard I'm constantly worried. Trying not to be though.