Family & Friends of Bipolar Support Group
This community is dedicated to parents, siblings, grandparents, other relatives and friends of someone who is Bipolar. The purpose of this community is to help families and friends develop greater patience and understanding, as well as maintain a positive, caring relationships with those diagnosed as Bipolar.
My husband suffers from Bipolar disorder and PTSD.
He keeps buying gadgets from Internet;He does not have a credit card anymore but goes behind my back and manages to get my number.
I need a credit card to function in life.i do not know how to prevent him .Tonight, I am mad.I had not checked my bank account for 2 days and he managed to overspend.
he has the same problem with his medicine but a nurse now comes everyday to deliver it.
I am going to refuse all the parcels which will arrive from the net and tell the postman my husband is sick but it is not a solution;
I would be very grateful for any help.
He keeps buying gadgets from Internet;He does not have a credit card anymore but goes behind my back and manages to get my number.
I need a credit card to function in life.i do not know how to prevent him .Tonight, I am mad.I had not checked my bank account for 2 days and he managed to overspend.
he has the same problem with his medicine but a nurse now comes everyday to deliver it.
I am going to refuse all the parcels which will arrive from the net and tell the postman my husband is sick but it is not a solution;
I would be very grateful for any help.
With Love,
heathercliff
As for him using the card... call the credit card company and report the card lost...... they will cancel the current card and issue you a new card with a new number which you can hide from your hubby. That way if he has the card number plugged into Amazon or Paypal or any other website it won''t do him any good anymore.
But in the US, you could always pen a Bank Account and get the Credit Cards in your name only.
Any checks he receives , have him sign them over to you for DEPOSIT ONLY and his signature .
Hope this helps
My credit card is in my name only.My husband does not have .I am the one legally entitled to "handle" the money;but he always finds ways.Basically, he stole my card number and opened accounts on Amazon and used my paypal.
I cannot draw attention on my credit card as it was a favour my bak manager did to me after we got bankrupt;Without a card, my life would be much more difficult but i have taken the number away and hid it.
I have managed to cancel the card number on Paypal and Amazon.
The anger generated by all this is huge.Every time I live it as a betrayal, although i know it is a disorder.
In 2 days, he managed to spend $ 600.
In the past, we lost our house through this.We are now bankrupt and have to pay very high debts for 5 years;.I am 62 and weary of all this.
My husband was only diagnosed recently;he has survived incredible traumas and torture .His therapist received him as an emergency yesterday and my husband was faced again with the reality of the overspending (and also taking overdose of painkillers in hiding)
His therapy next will will focus on the money issue.
Heather Cliff, I do not know if you are in therapy, but I find it vital to address this issue with a therapist;in my experience, credit cards should not be available to BP sufferers.
So that my husband becomes aware of the financial impact of his actions, i have asked him to pay back those $600 by selling some of his possessions second hand.
Yesterday, i felt suicidal.it always seems like the last time it happens, but it keeps coming back.
Yesterday, i wanted to strangle my husband.It brought me back to my own traumas and ffeling betrayed.
What hurts most are the lies.When my husband swears he did not buy or used.
I have to go back on my meditation cushion and try and use this painful experience as a support for growth and wisdom.
My husband , beside a horryfying past of incest, was tortured in the prison of South Africa.he is a white African poet who stood against aparheid.He was raped by 5 special police there .
I feel for him and want to help him in the right way.
Thankd for reading me.