I remind myself that it was as bad as it was so I could break away. If I go back I've ignored a huge signal telling me it was time to move on. I imagine how hard it would be for me to trust him again or feel good about myself when I was with him. That it would always be on my mind. I don't want to be the crazy girlfriend second guessing everything and track his every move. I want someone who wants to be with me.Actions speak louder than words.

I am bipolar. I have not been cheated on but instead I was the cheater. I told my hubby about what had happened and how it happened one time. Somehow, we found our way through it and are stronger than we ever were in the past. Time will heal your heart hon.

Deception and betrayal are hard ones to get past. Only time, counseling and healing yourself works. I have to keep telling myself that the best revenge is to find my own happiness. We all deserve so much better and it is out there. It deosn't matter what the disorder. Once someone is giving the tools for their own recovery it's up to them to change. I had always felt if the other person made the changes than I would be OK, but I need to make the changes in myself as well. Holding on to my own integrity, it's hard because the rejection is difficult. And I so want to believe but the doubts are always there. Take care of yourself and remember that you deserve love, respect and honesty. I was married to a alocoholice who cjeated and I blamed the disease, happened again and I to face that I couldn't make anymore excuses. Now 6 yrs with a BP boyfriend, deception and betrayal are her in my life again. The wonderful thing is I have great support from bioth my family and his, who remind me I'm so much better than this. Time for me to take control of me and not try to help manage his life anymore.

mine did. It was kind of my fault though. It was before he was diagnosed and medicated and we had gotten into a huge fight. He had been drinking (a big trigger of mine) and had a female friend that I did not care for. During said fight, I yelled, "Fine! If I am so horrible just go sleep with _______!"......So he did. In his mind, being drunk and in a manic state, he felt that he actually had permission and it was not "really" cheating. It wasn't until later when he was sober and at a more normal state that he realized it.

I will not lie. It hurt...a LOT. we did split up for awhile, but it is what pushed him to go get diagnosed and medicated and THAT was the best thing that he ever did for us as a family.

Another good thing that came out of it was that I learned that being in a relationship with someone who is bipolar is a 2 way street just like any other relationship. That meant that I needed to watch my words and I needed to do my part to not trigger him.

Im also bp and never cheated. I have ended relationships that were not working for ones that worked better. Its a two way street. Can you imagine the pain of being cheated on when you have bp? Talk about a spiral to suicide. We all need to respect eachother. I dont think bp alone will make you a cheater. Usually if bp is in combination with a personality disorder like borderline or Narcissism (which is very common) if borderline they may do it to "pay you back" for a percieved slight or if Narcissistic...they just dont give a shit about your feelings and may even take joy in controlling your emotions.