Family & Friends of Bipolar Support Group

This community is dedicated to parents, siblings, grandparents, other relatives and friends of someone who is Bipolar. The purpose of this community is to help families and friends develop greater patience and understanding, as well as maintain a positive, caring relationships with those diagnosed as Bipolar.

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jedoispartir 02/01/2008

My wife is bi-polar, and I just sustained a traumatic brain injury. My nerves are shot now, and it takes only a little bit for me to lose control. I need to know how to handle her. She yells at me for everything, and I feel as though I have failed in life. I need some advice!!! Please help me help her.

deleted_user 02/01/2008

Wow... you are dealing with a lot!
Do either of you have counseling?
Is your wife in treatment for BP, taking medication, etc.?
Its moving that you want to help her, when you need support so much yourself. She needs to take responsibility for her moods, and take meds, see her therapist, etc. She cant use BP as an excuse to just yell about everything.
I have some advice for coping skills and detachment, etc. in my journal if you click on my profile. I posted it all there because so many people need to hear these things, I could be repeating it every day! Even to myself!
When the tension gets too much, take a break, go for a walk or a drive, etc. for a short time. Tell her how long, like... I need some space. I will be back in half an hour. Lets talk then. or something like that.

deleted_user 02/01/2008

I can't add anything more than what has been stated in #1..

Best of luck

jedoispartir 02/02/2008

Thanks for the input. I just cannot take her crap anymore. I am lost as to what to do....

deleted_user 02/02/2008

What kind of crap is she giving? Its better for us to know a lil more of whats going on so we can help a lil more..

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jedoispartir 02/02/2008

She yells all the time over little, stupid, mundane things. She blames me for everything, read my journal and you will see what that got me. She blows everything way out of proportion.

deleted_user 02/04/2008

my father has bi-polar and I understand your struggles. One thing that helps me is to remember who he is deep down. I know during the rants and the screaming and the ups and downs its hard to remember but if you can..it really helps to remember that they are not their illness. They are still the person you loved...just severely affected but a horrible disease.

deleted_user 02/08/2008

I don't think you are going to like what I am about to say but, the reality is that at this moment you can't help her, when it sounds like she does not want to help herself. And with every thing that is going on in your life right now, i believe the biggest way to help her is by helping yourself first. You need to get started on that first step to help yourself and make life easier for you right now there by helping your relationship.

deleted_user 02/09/2008

I am so sorry you are having to go through so much with your health and your wifes bp. Is she on meds or in counselling? I have bp and I did battle irritability on a daily basis. That is when I would put myself in time out so I wouldnt hurt my hubbys feelings. I also did not want my children to hear any fighting. Maybe together the two of you should go to counselling or maybe talk about some coping skills.

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