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Can someone give me advice

shadow11
shadow11
I am not sure if my husband has bipolar. He goes days in a row where he is great. Then he has days in a row where he yells and screams and threatens to quit his job and leave me. He complains about everything and everything is my fault. Today he was yelling and screaming and banging his hands against the wall. It was almost like he was having a temper tantrum. I feel so sad. I have no self esteem. He makes me feel like I am crazy. I feel so lonely. Any advice would be appreciated.
Community Leaderacuriousfish
acuriousfish
hi, could be a number of things that cause him to behave like that.

But whatever it is the impact on you would be the same.

Bipolar usually cycles over a longer period and you would expect to see the classic signs of bipolar, ie talking fast, lots of ideas, poor focus, not sleeping, taking risks.

You would also expect to see depression for periods - usually weeks.

Have you tried talking to him on the days when he is ok? About what is happening on those other days?
Teresabhopes
Teresabhopes
Just know that whatever he does or feels or expresses is more about what HE is going through rather than about YOU. He obviously needs help to deal with his issues. As his wife, you can love, support and encourage him, but you cannot cure what ails him. It's not your fault, even if he says it is!

Don't go through this alone. Connect with people who can support you and help you deal with this. I've been in situations like what you describe - they don't get better if you do nothing.

Be safe above all!
epicjourney
epicjourney
let me agree with our friends above. I would also add that you may want to consult with a therapist or join a local support group. As acurisousfish says, it could be any number of things. But if it is bipolar, he absolutely needs to be on medication. It is no different than any other illness that requires medication.

very best,
--EJ
nxtofkin
nxtofkin
Hi Shadow,
Sounds like my BP husb. Has he held a job long term? No matter what the verbal abuse is torture so are you able to go to his doctor with him and mention the anger and threats? It should lead to an evaluation and treatment if needed. You could also write a list of concerns and the effects on your health and make your own appointment with his doctor if he/she will see you. If it is bipolar it neeeeds to be known and treated for all involved. Take care.
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