Family & Friends of Bipolar Support Group
This community is dedicated to parents, siblings, grandparents, other relatives and friends of someone who is Bipolar. The purpose of this community is to help families and friends develop greater patience and understanding, as well as maintain a positive, caring relationships with those diagnosed as Bipolar.
I have been divorced from my ex who is BP for almost 5 years now. But his constant need to drag me or my bf into arguments make it hard to forget about him on a daily. I have blocked him from my phone. He can only email me. This has made it a lot easier on me since I don't get notifications that he has emailed. I check it when I like. As far as my bf is concerned he likes to "poke the bear with a stick via internet connection". They are on the same news internet news forum. At first it was ok because my ex had no idea who he was, but now that he knows he tried really hard to cause drama with my bf. Luckily my bf is smarter than he is. My ex believes he's still unknown to my bf. But the ex will go out of his way everyday to try to get a rise out of either my bf or I. I have full custody of our child so I have no choice but to be connected to him. Some days are so exhausting discussing one incident after another that my ex can create. My bf and I have a excellent relationship but I fear this constant reminder of my ex and his drama could start to put a weight on things that cant be bared. We have been together for two years now. And I know that I have no choice but to have to deal with my ex. I feel awful that my bf has to deal with it to now.
I have considered filling harassment charges but I'm not sure how that works.
My bf has considered just leaving the forum all together but feels like he shouldn't have to considering he has been there longer than my ex and can maintain his behavior in a smarter matter than my ex.
I'm so tired of the same cycle, my only relief is that I don't have to live with the man anymore. But I feel as though he is still always present in our lives regardless.
I have considered filling harassment charges but I'm not sure how that works.
My bf has considered just leaving the forum all together but feels like he shouldn't have to considering he has been there longer than my ex and can maintain his behavior in a smarter matter than my ex.
I'm so tired of the same cycle, my only relief is that I don't have to live with the man anymore. But I feel as though he is still always present in our lives regardless.
I have been considering for some time now to file either harassment or get ANOTHER protection order. I had one for two years after our divorce.
I have noticed that my anxiety is lower now that he cant contact me via texting. But I feel as though anything that he does want to make issue about is so extreme now, maybe because he's so angry about me blocking him I am guessing.
I mean I am sure its real hard for him going from having total control of my ever emotion and action for 15 years to close to nothing now (yes this was a total sarcastic remark :0)) .
You would think after 5 years I could just do and not think about his feelings or my child's feelings. That is the curse of being a "people pleaser" I guess.
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Yes in fact he is blocked from me. My BF is a really reasonable loving and kind person. As much as my ex tries, he will never push him to responding to him in a negative way (unless it happens in our home). We just see it as another ploy to continue to harass the peaceful nature of our lives together. Something I never had when I was married to him.
Yes that would make it a lot easier. :) And is one of my many changes I plan on asking for when court does happen. Which will be soon.
Thank you