Hello,

I am really struggling with my mother. She raised me herself and ive never known my father or have siblings. She has a really unstable relationship with my aunt's (her sisters) because of her behaviour. She is so unbearable to be around. Shes either making wild plans to holiday and do the house up or do open university courses, or is screaming like a madwoman at everyone. She has no self awareness, and takes anything anyone says as a slight on her.

I am in my first serious relationship and live with my bf and he is nervous if she visits us. She is a hoarder, which isolated me from having friends round when i was growing up. The house is getting worse and worse and she wont leave unless shes going to work. She gets furious when i try to speak to her about the house. She thinks im telling her what to do and shouts at me about how im out to get her. She blames the house on being a single mother but since i moved out 6 years ago its become worse and worse. I want children in a few years and they won't be able to visit.

I am totally lost and upset all the time. I want to help her but she wont let me.