I am sorry for your disappointment. Although I am not married my pool of friends have diminished as well because of issues dealing with my son. I found out they really were not my friends at all.

If its not too late Can you try to call one of the friends you were suppose to go out with and just go for a cup of coffee. Say I am sorry it did not work out tonight but I would really like to get out. Coffee is short and sweet and you are still keeping part of your comitment. You would probably feel better if you got out.

is your wife depressed at the moment? i find with my bf, when he is depressed, he will say he will go places with me, but when it comes time to go, says he cant, and usually cries (his way of crying anyway), so i cant normally be mad at him.
although last year when my nans partner died, i really needed him to come to the funeral with me, to help me through because it effected me more than i thought it would, but he was too depressed that day, couldnt get up. i was angry and hurt. but i also knew that he didnt mean it, and couldnt help it...
dont think this will help u at all, but atleast you know u arent alone

i am learning that it has been more and more difficult in planning things with a bp spouse. i do the same thing you do, talking up the event, but have learned that i cannot make committments as at the last minute he tends to back out. as a result, yes our circle of friends has not really expanded, or even shrunk in some cases. thank goodness for facebook and myspace, otherwise i don't think i would ever be able to talk to them!
you're not alone. i agree with #1 -- despite her not feeling well, you should make the effort to meet up with friends later. you are a person too and have social needs. as much support we can be here on DS, it is helpful to have a live and local group of friends that you can call. don't ever let that go!!

Hey there. I can relate. My husband did the same thing on Christmas. We were supposed to have a family get-together and we never made it. We drove 20 miles to his uncle's house, and then he started acting irrationally so we had to come home. We never saw anyone that day. I had to call his brother and tell him that we weren't coming. My husband got into bed and didn't talk to anyone for hours. It's disappointing and difficult to explain. A lot of people don't understand how a sudden mood swing can change the whole course of your day.

I found that I pretty much had to develop a pool of friends outside out marriage, and it wasn't easy, since most folks don't really know what to make of a married person who socializes without a spouse. You don't really fit in with couples, and you don't really fit in with singles. But the real friends stuck through it with me. A small pool of friends can get you through a lot.