what's GAD? General Anxiety disorder? That's his mania talking. Also---all bipolar ppl say they are fine, they don't need meds, they don't need a doctor, etc. "Its not me its you." Not saying the doctor couldn't be wrong...just saying, classic BP ploy. If he is fast and depressed he's most likely BP, keep in mind that there is such a thing as a "mixed episode" where they are manic and depressed together. My husband did that about a month ago when adjusting meds. Said he had never felt worse in his life. Couldn't do enough and had no energy to do anything....two sides warring in his head essentially. Keep in mind also that both mania and depression cause high irritability. With my husband--this is expressed as snapping at everyone when he is put out by the least thing (depression) or anything is asked of him. In mania---explosive volcanic anger.

Dear Flyingelvi,

Yes he claims General Anxiety Disorder.
Its all so confusing and I guess it really doesn't matter considering even if he does admit to whatever he has been diagnosed with he still wont accountability for anything he does. So is pointless than anyway..........I feel for my child. I am free from most of his episodes. But my poor innocent child must be subject to them........

not wanting to play doctor but if someone "seems" to be bipolar, the meds don't really work and they had a bad childhood, it could be Borderline Personality Disorder. It's getting diagnosed more commonly now and some stuff I've read suggests it is more common than Bipolar.

Or he can of course have GAD as well. He can also be Bipolar AND borderline.

My suggestion would be to get a second opinion.

Here's a link to a post about Borderline

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Family_and_Friends_of_Bipolar/forum/12521924-borderline-personality-disorder-article

I wish for our child's sake he would seek help. I see him spiraling down further and further in how he deals with me and others he doesn't even know. Both his parents are diagnosed with something. His father is depressed from his mothers bipolar, manic, multiple personality issues she's denied for years before she was finally forced to get help.
Anyway, thank you all for responding.
I hope you had/have a beautiful day
Shelby

hmmm...I think Borderline is a relatively new "thing" - it could be his mother is actually more on the personality disorder side because the different personas may have radically different natural mood states.

When you say you wished he sought help - presumably he got himself diagnosed previously and so there is hope he may seek further help.

I think there is a strong possibility of him having a personality disorder - for example Borderline comes from "inconsistent parenting" rather than outright abuse - and from what you have said of his parents I think it's almost inevitable he had such a childhood.

Borderline has a different treatment from Bipolar, it's a specific therapy method not meds. So even if he is Bipolar if there is a personality disorder in there you will only ever get so far with meds.

His parents are both verbally abusive and were physical with all five children. My X was his mothers favorite child. So he also received harsh feelings from all his siblings. None of their grown children speak to them as of now. And 4 out of five have some mental ailment. My X did see a doctor for his original diagnoses in which the doctor quickly diagnosed him with BP. Within the first two months upped the dosage of the meds he was prescribed, he stopped taking them shortly after. He feeds off of drama, is always the victim in every situation as well will continue to attack until he has exhausted the person he's attacking. People he has never even met. I used to describe his behavior as being on a rollercoaster. Constant ups and downs. But as of late he seems to be more downs.
He has no real friends. Most of who he associates with are people who have never witnessed his "true" behavior. He defines himself through his job which is being a mechanic or "auto technician" as he likes to be called, he is good at his job but has a hard time with the other mechanics as his ego is huge. When he's not at work he sits on his porch and smokes pot and cigarette after cigarettes surfing the internet for arguments and attention. He's been married and separated then has had 3 more relationship since our divorce 5 yrs ago.

I agree with fish.... It 'sounds' to me what you're describing is his personality as it doesn't seem to be a cycle but how he is all the time..

He can change with help if he chooses to... You continuing to enabling him/codependent isn't helping either one of you and never will..
There's a lot of info on both on the net... Putting up boundaries that are healthy for you would make a great difference in your life... You might need some therapy as well.... Why have you been attracted ongoing to someone who is so abusive??... Why have you spent so much time trying to change and rescue him??

There is a lot of good help for both of you and it will in turn help your children

Big hug for you and a blessing...x

Dear SunCLoudJD,

Thank you....
I do accept my enabling. And I had great boundaries until I gave it one more chance for the sake of our child.
I am in therapy as well is our child. And our child has been diagnosed with Anxiety as I have been diagnosed with anxiety, Battered women syndrome.
My grandmother used to say I have been blessed with a big heart but that it is also a curse.
I have learned my lesson for the last time. Now its about fixing me and my youngest.
Thank you again :0) Hugs back.

It's always about 'one more chance' and I'm not trying to beat you up but I'm being honest about how badly it will continue to hurt you... You'll never change who he is..

The program Intervention gives a very clear view of enabling behaviour.. It happens to be about addiction however even without addiction the enabling does the same thing... Letting someone fall and get themselves up can be the best give you can give them..

http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/enabling_behavior.html

Dear SunCLoudJD,

I don't think your trying to beat me up at all. In fact I welcome people reminding me that I shouldn't enable his behavior any further because that's what help calm any urges to any different feelings I may have.

Again, Thank you
Shebly

It is not unusual for people to have a personality disorder and be bipolar.

Dear CaitsMom,

I think it is much more than one thing. To bad he doesn't care for our child more than himself and wont seek help to deal.