Family & Friends of Bipolar Support Group

This community is dedicated to parents, siblings, grandparents, other relatives and friends of someone who is Bipolar. The purpose of this community is to help families and friends develop greater patience and understanding, as well as maintain a positive, caring relationships with those diagnosed as Bipolar.

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ShoreT51
ShoreT51
I really don't have a good reason for posting today but I am so angry with my mother over this that I just had to. My new boyfriend happens to have bi-polar and because of this fact, my mother says I need to break up with him. To me, this isn't fair. Am I way off base to be angry with her?
Community Leaderacuriousfish
acuriousfish
hi, well I would think you have a right to be annoyed, it is your life. Is this simply because he is bipolar or because of him as a person?

If it's the former it seems a bit of an over reaction on her part.
ShoreT51
ShoreT51
Since the relationship is only a week old they haven't met. Her problem is that since I have MS she thinks me dating someone who also has a health issue can lead to problems.
deleted_user
deleted_user
it sounds like she has your best interests at heart but is maybe unenlightened about things like this. I usually treat my folks on a need to know basis!! I would suggest that, if you do not understand what BP truely means, read everything you can, check out this board and the board for sufferers of bipolar (but remember that people on these boards are often dealing with traumas and so are not neccessarily a complete reflection of this illness) and make a decision for yourself.
If you should avoid stress in your illness, i would suggest you think very carefully about things before getting to involved.
Community Leaderacuriousfish
acuriousfish
well sort of yes and no. Sometimes it can mean that you both have some understanding of what it is like to have something that is episodic in nature.

But really at the core, it's the person not the disease and again I'm sure that's something you already get.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Amanda said it best. "If you should avoid stress in your illness, i would suggest you think very carefully about things before getting too involved."

I am a beeper. I'm not the easiest person to live with. I take my medication consistently, I attend therapy, I try to be mindful what of what I say/do. But I'm still a handful!
Shelly4
Shelly4
Parents tend to be protective at any age, especially when our children have an existing illness. My guess is that YOU are her concern, not so much his disorder that she may not understand.

I agree with the others in that if you need to avoid stress in your life, you may want to understand better what you are about to enter into. Not to mention the fact that your illness and the stress of it may more likely "trigger" him and cause him to be episodic. If you truly want a relationship with this man, read, research, and understand the disorder. Time may make your decision for you.

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