Mally... You have to clear that with his PO. Only his PO can answer this for you as he would be the one that would violate your Dad should he believe he broke the rules. Does he have any and distance restrictions like 1,000 feet from any place that's frequented by children? That would be a problem with buying land.

I think all he was told was he cant have any contact with anyone under 18. I know the law says he cant live within 1,000 ft of schools and things like that.

I still think his PO would have the answer to your question.

I know how much you want him to be able to see your kids. How long would his probation be? Once he's off paper I believe those restrictions go away unless he's a high level 3 on the registry (depending on the state you're in...) Do you and the kids live in the house?

Could you find an efficiency apartment somewhere close?

His probation is 4 years. And registered a level 2. The lawyer is trying to get the judge to allow him to see my kids. We dont live with him. I was hoping I could move into his house but thats not looking like a possibility. He is going to lose his truck, house, and job. I have no idea what to do. I dont have any money to give him. His house and truck are in a ch 13. Im at a lose on what to do.

He has to go to s.o. classes every week that cost $200 a class. How can they expect him to pay for that if he cant work? That doesnt make any sense. And he owes his lawyer thousands.

Mally,

I sent you a PM....

$200/week is outrageous for therapy! I paid $40 per week and even at that they had allowances for people who could qualify for assistance. You will have to ask the therapist and/or PO about that.

As far as the lawyer bill I'm not sure if that can be added to his chapter 13 or not. (My lawyer ran into 5 figures and I don't think I got my money's worth!)

My sons so class was 40 a week, but had to buy a book for 75 and before he even started the class had to go to a assessment or something with a Dr. before he could start the class and it was 1,700.00 for like 6 hours. If we had not been helping him there is NO way he could have done it. I dont understand how they expect these guys to be able to do this...but thats it I really think its so they WONT be able to succeed...It is just outrages

Yea... My "Pre-assessment was $90. And it didn't last 15 minutes...

My sons therapy was $80 for initial visit and then $24 a week plus $280 for a polygraph. He also has to pay $102 a month for probation for the next 4 years. Almost impossible to do that and live with a low end job because he can't find anything else and is only 21 without a college degree. Plus he wants to goto school and this makes it almost impossible. I did hear that if you talk to po they can lower the payments of probation. Gonna have my son do that.

And Scalia said nothing....SCOTUS said the sex offender registry was NOT punishment. Scalia was not deciding vote and he said nothing. He should hear your story, Shay and your story, Mally. This is abuse begetting abuse. Has Scalia ever heard of the cycle of abuse? He should. Obviously, this is not physical abuse. It is financial abuse masquarading as "punishment."

There needs to be a new dialogue about all of this. I remember Clinton signing Megan's Law in the 1990's and thinking that it was a good idea. The Supreme Court decisions date back to that time as well. Victim/survivors controlled the dialogue then as they do now.

Everyone wants to help a child who has been harmed. That's a "no-brainer" for most people. The unfortunate part about that is that "no-brain" means that thinking is no longer applied to a situation. That is what we have now. That's how people can and do justify the cruel treatment of sex offenders as "justice".

But who are sex offenders? Mall and Shay...they are your son, your father. It is my husband. The financial abuse goes on and on to include us.

Does this help society? Usually, what we would do is ask for empirical evidence. So, there need to be well-designed studies that demonstrate good or harm.

Are there such studies? Yes. What do they demonstrate? That families are harmed. That victim/survivors doe not receive adequate treatment. That residency restrictions do not work, but, in fact, increase risk. Sex offenders driven out of supportive environment are at higher risk of reoffending.

When presented with the evidence, you have to say, "What the heck are we as a nation thinking??"

Well, the answer is nothing. Because we sacrificed our brains a long time ago on this issue.

Thanks for letting me rant.

Ooops. Scalia was THE deciding vote. Also, the "punishment" of what is really financial abuse is obvious. But SCOTUS stated that is was not punishment, which justifies the abuse.