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Living in Michigan and becoming more and more anxious as I await the fate of my nephew who was arrested by the Feds a few months ago.
As I have read from everyone who has posted...I am not alone in this living nightmare. He's such great kid (young man) and this took us all by surprise.
He and I are very close and I want to help him in any way I can.
It's kind of a long story, which I will probably get more into as I become more familiar with this site. But...it was definitely an entrapment situation as a plea bargain for an arrested prostitute he had text/phone conversations with.
Please believe me...I'm not justifying his sexual bantar, communications or lack of judgement, but I am now realizing this is an widespread addiction in society that is way more common than most people, including myself, was aware of.
I now need to educate myself on the criminal law process, the rules of the jail and most importantly, to make sure I try my hardest to be by his side and to help him mentally deal with all this.
My question at this point, if anyone would know is...
I don't understand why the arrest police report, which was pretty detailed (dates, times, facts) differs from what the Prosecutor presented to the judge. He had 3 bond hearings which were detained and each time the prosecutor was throwing out different dates. That just doesn't make sense to me.
He has a very expensive attorney who has experience with Federal cases. I did bring this up to him and he didn't seem to make a big deal about it. For some reason, I DO thinks it's a big deal. (along with other issues)
I hope I'm not rambling and this makes some sense. I'm frustrated in this whole process and venting.
One thing I have learned is never to pass judgement on someone dealing with this and that there is most likely, a loving family feeling and dealing with great pain as well.
God bless everyone and their loved ones going this.
As I have read from everyone who has posted...I am not alone in this living nightmare. He's such great kid (young man) and this took us all by surprise.
He and I are very close and I want to help him in any way I can.
It's kind of a long story, which I will probably get more into as I become more familiar with this site. But...it was definitely an entrapment situation as a plea bargain for an arrested prostitute he had text/phone conversations with.
Please believe me...I'm not justifying his sexual bantar, communications or lack of judgement, but I am now realizing this is an widespread addiction in society that is way more common than most people, including myself, was aware of.
I now need to educate myself on the criminal law process, the rules of the jail and most importantly, to make sure I try my hardest to be by his side and to help him mentally deal with all this.
My question at this point, if anyone would know is...
I don't understand why the arrest police report, which was pretty detailed (dates, times, facts) differs from what the Prosecutor presented to the judge. He had 3 bond hearings which were detained and each time the prosecutor was throwing out different dates. That just doesn't make sense to me.
He has a very expensive attorney who has experience with Federal cases. I did bring this up to him and he didn't seem to make a big deal about it. For some reason, I DO thinks it's a big deal. (along with other issues)
I hope I'm not rambling and this makes some sense. I'm frustrated in this whole process and venting.
One thing I have learned is never to pass judgement on someone dealing with this and that there is most likely, a loving family feeling and dealing with great pain as well.
God bless everyone and their loved ones going this.
It is my understanding that unless the difference in dates, times, etc., make a 'material' difference to the evidence, then its no big deal. In my opinion you also should be aware that just because a lawyer is expensive, doesn't necessarily mean he is the best. He needs to be experienced in THIS TYPE of case, not just Federal courts, to be useful.
I will have to define what they consider as "material" evidence. I assumed time frame was somewhat of material importance as to when he contacted her and when SHE recontacted him based on her arrest. (sigh)
And yes, this attorney has experience in SO cases...but I'm still nervous and was even thinking of getting a second opinion or co-counsel before it's too late.
Thank you again for taking the time to reply!
So not only do you have to deal with the longgggggg process of the system, you are dealing with emotions that equates to one hell of a roller coaster. You will find those family members disowning your nephew. You will find your friends telling you to just get on with your life. For me? No way Jose! This was a personal and internal decision to support, love, and forgive.
Your nephew needs you now more than ever. Visit him, write him, and talk to him. Just remember everything is being recorded so dont talk about his case.
Realize that its a very frustrating experience and most people dont understand. Keep your faith!