Do not give the information to her. It's readily available to anyone who wants it. She obviously doesn't. His actions appear to be as one who will wind back up in prison shortly after release. Might be time to move on before you've made any more investment in prison.

DO NOT get yourself in trouble for him. You need to stay away from anything he wants you to do. Stay away from his daughter. Whether she is lying or not she had no problem putting her father in jail, what makes you think she won't complain about you contacting her and put you in jail too. I'm sorry to say it but your husband is being a douche bag if he wants you to do that knowing you and him can get in trouble!

Your hubby is being a dick sorry but do not do it! Give him a reminder what no contact means asap! He needs to get that in his head! I think if he asks if you saw her tell him that you haven't noticed her on the street or in the area it's not really lying to him.
I think if she wanted the information she could of got it herself. Your hubby is letting this control him and yes it could land him back in prison eespecially if he trys to talk to her when his out. Yep I get it that his pissed off about it but this is something he can't change so his gotta suck it up......me and my love have had to do the same thing yep we are still pissed off about it but hey no point splitting hairs over something you can't change the only thing you can do is keep going forward and try not to look back and live in the past.
Hang in there iam hear if you need me.

I agree with all 3 replies. Do not do anything, stay away from her.

That would be third party contact at a minimum. Your husband is being extremely difficult and unrealistic. I will repeat others... DO NOT comply with his request. Stand your ground. If he continues down this path, he will get locked up again. Also, stay away from his daughter. Live your own life. You may have to go on your own without him if he is being a royal pain in the ass.

You husband seems to have only his interests at heart. In my opinion, and from personal experience, not the action of an innocent person.
His very first concern should be for your safety and you well being.

It is not easy to sit in prison and have no control over your life at all. It is another thing to try to take control of the lives of others when you have none over your own.

My wife helped me every single day. She was my reason to fight even when those who placed me in prison thought the battle was over.

My battle will never be over until I win or I am dead. During the years that I was in prison, my wonderful wife stood beside me. Not just through the trial and the difficult times to come, but through the every day doubts and fears that come with having no control over your own life.

The hope that his daughter may change her story is a dream. If she was programmed to say what she said, then she likely was so affected that she may even believe it herself.

He should get over it. If he thinks that getting out of prison means freedom, he has a rude awakening ahead of him.
If he is being disrespectful now, it will get worse hen he finds out what is ahead of him when he is released.

I agree with MrsHRC, he is likely to be a return statistic unless he comes to grip fast.

Were you with him when he was arrested?

If so, he has to understand that you had to fend for yourself while he was gone and hings are different now.

He isn't likely to just waltz out of prison and find himself a job that is going to be bright and meaningful.

He better learn fast that he will have to dig his heels in and fight for a future and he will he all the love and support that he can get.

Nearly 30 years after I went to prison, my wife still fights with me to over come this battle we are still fighting. I was released in the 80's but I am still not free. I still have the SORNA laws that I am battling and until that battle is won, the war is not over.

There is also the fact that no matter how innocent a person may be, there will always be those who have their own opinion and there is nothing you can do about that. They believe what they believe.

As for you, you have to decide if you are going to deal with this issue for the rest of your life too. Trust me. It affects you just as much as it does him.

Fortunately for me, my wife and I had several years of storybook romance to remember before this ever took place in our lives. no one can take that from us. They could only take our future, not our past.

The determination to fight the daily battles that lie ahead take more than wanting to do so.
They take determination, love, patience and hope.

When someone goes to prison for something they have done, they have themselves to be angry at more than anyone else.
But for those who are actually innocent, there is a different anger. One that is very difficult to deal with. And there are days when I for one and hardly fit to be around other humans. There are days when I am not sure why my wonderful wife is still with me. And then I remember that it was not just my life that was stolen. Hers was taken away as well. She was imprisoned as surely as I was.

If your husband is focused only on himself, he is going to find that life ahead is not very happy.
The delight at walking out of jail to find out that there are few places he will be welcome after his release will likely only further infuriate him and blaming those who are trying to support him will not make things better.

You have to decide.. and remember, even doing nothing is still an action.
I think you should look deeper before you decide to do nothing. What is ahead of you will require doing something, and nothing will result in only more problems.

You have several options. You can sit down and let him know that you will not tolerate this kind of treatment. You can also let him know what lies ahead and that if he expects to have any life at all it will mean working together.
You can let him know that trying to pressure a change of statement (which even if given may make NO difference in the end) will only result in further legal issues which he cannot afford.

Or you can cut your losses and move on with you life.

Only you know which is the best choice.

But doing nothing is not an option and doing nothing with someone with his attitude could only lead to an abusive situation.

very good advice from all.

beentheretoo has hit the nail dead center.

do not give into his demands. to do so will only cause more problems, and yes you have choices, they will be hard ones but ones that may very well protect not just your future freedom, but your quality of life!!!

Agree with everyone. Also, if after explaining to him how hurtful he's been and trying to get him to see through your eyes, which I'm sure you've done this many times before, I suggest that you tell him that if he can't stop being mentally abusive to you (because what he's saying to you and calling you IS abuse), then you'll have no choice but to cut him off completely...no letters, no money, his letters would be returned, his calls would be rejected, etc. I get that he has no control over his life in prison which I know can be very stressful, that's why lots of inmates come out institutionalized and with PTSD...but the only person that he really has to worry about in there is him. You have so many other things to worry about...making sure all the bills are paid, making sure there's a little left over for him and possibly visits, dealing with ignorant people when they find out your hubby's imprisonment, dealing with any family issues, and a whole list of other things...you actually have a very good chance of developing PTSD yourself, as well as mental exhaustion. And if you think that it'll get better once he gets home, that's probably not gonna happen. It may get even get worse, much worse...especially once he realizes he doesn't have the freedom that he thought he'd have. Please be careful.

Please listen to the people here, be very careful. My inmate is my son, so I really do not know what you have been through or are going through now, but I have been in an abusive relationship. It started out verbal, but then started to become physical, that's when my kids and I left (he had PTSD from Viet Nam).
Please keep in touch so we know that you are okay.

If the restraining order is until she's 18, you need to follow it. I don't know why he's want to bother, if she DID lie. He could end up in more trouble. My step-daughter lied about her dad, and he wants nothing to do with her...if she wants contact, she will have to work for it and that includes confessing

Thank you all very, very much for all your advice but please do not worry my husband may have his opinion as to my level of intelligence but little does he know it is far greater than he realizes. I play the dumb wife with him sometimes for argument sake. I realize the restraining order is there. this order was put in place not to determine his guilt or innocence but to protect the victim. I knew it we lead to trouble to break it but once again I needed MY FRIENDS to explain it to me that if I refused to do this I am not calling him guilty nor being disloyal I am basically looking out for me AND him. when he gets out if he pursues this issue of a confession he will have to suffer the consequences.Thank you all for pointing this out to me. Many times I have to sit back and reread all your messages because sometimes I cant believe how we all have never met and eveyone is so much supportive than my own friends and family.I dont think. No I know I could have made it a day longer without you guys.you are the greatest each and everyone of you whether you posted on this or not I have a feeling you were thinking of me. Once again dont worry, that would be stupid and thats not me!! (HUGS)...LOL!