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Stick a fork in me...I'm done

psalm34amen
psalm34amen
I have been sitting outside waiting for my mother who had surgery today. The nurse called me on my cell phone to tell me I can pull around the back to the pick up area and pick up my 72 year old mother. Problem is my car is broken down and wont start. I am so angry right now because all I can think about is the fact that the one thing I would ordinarily do that would be simple and stress free would be to call my husband and he would come quickly and take care of the problem. I am now sitting here in the car trying to call friends to see if anyone can come and get my mom and take her home. when my dad died 2 years ago, I promised him and I would take care of my mother and those for also the last word my husband said to my dad. All I can say is he and I are doing a helluva job. Soon as I can figure out how to get this car home I'm going to bed. Nothing stressful happened there
CarLCK
CarLCK
When it rains, it pours. Take a deep breath. Focus on something pure and beautiful - the sound of the birds in the trees, the movement of the clouds across the sky, the scent of spring in the air. Anything -grab onto it and find gratitude in it.

The feelings you are having are normal and expected, but at the end of the day you need to remember that this life is YOURS and you can make of it what you will. Your husband has to embrace his destiny and make it his; you can't change it in anyway, you can only love him and support him from the outside. If this is too much for you, then take a step back from him and focus on your own needs.

I strongly urge you to seek out medical and therapeutic supports. You are not alone, and there are ways to live with this nightmare. Believe me, I have been dealing with this SO BS since 2011, and there are days I wake up and wonder how I got to 2015...and I remember the sunshine on my face, the wagging of my dog's tail, and the simple call from a friend and I know I can move forward through my day.

One day at a time.

Take care of yourself.