100 percent correct ! I felt the same. Had to turn off

That was one of the most absurd things I've seen. I didn't watch the Oscars but when I saw that on the news today... did they really think anything good was going to come out of that? Terrible waste of time that could have actually done good

I wish they would put more emphasis on alcohol/drug abuse on college campuses which seems to be the common denominator resulting in this out-of-control behavior. Very sad.

Lady Gaga wrote a song about sexual abuse and rape culture (music video included), I believe that is why she brought them on stage. I didn't watch the Oscars.

I disagree with the notion that we shouldn't support survivors. If we ever want to see change we need as a group need to be leading the charge to support survivors. Our policies cannot be based upon what is fair for sex offenders, no one care what is fair for sex offenders. Our policies need to be based on what is the best way to help stop sexual abuse.

Residency restrictions do nothing to end sexual abuse, not only that they make it more likely for future abuse to occur by not letting the offender reintegrate into society. This is our best argument to the media and the masses.

I agree with Independent. Being a victim...i hate that term...is something no one should go through. Even though i support my SO i also feel for the victim.

In fact I wrote my SO's victim. I sent it to theDA to forword it. It is horrible what she went through. And i told her even though i support him...does not diminish what she went through.

I can see both sides. I wish it didnt happen. But you can wish in one hand and s--t in the other and see which one fills up first. Hmmmm

Yeah..... here's the thing, I'm all for supporting ACTUAL survivors, but not at the expense of the presumption of innocence, or other rights given to all of us in the Constitution

I'm here because my son accidentally downloaded child porn that he never looked at. From my point of view, this kind of 'in your face' I just don't agree with. When people find out he's a RSO, they think of this kind of thing and he ends up being a monster.
When there is no other side to the story this is pushing people on an emotional level, and they end up hating everyone on the registry.

I agree Independant and Rew. We should be leading the charge to help support survivors as well as helping to prevent abuse in the first place.

Those who hate SO's say that we don't care about the victims, we only want what is best for the SO's at the expense of the victims. We can help support them, but not sign away anyone's rights to do it.

No, I don't care about 'Vicky'.. RSO are not all guilty. There are a lot who aren't. They have to live with the Scarlet letter.

I know a lot of people who were sexually abused. I would probably run out of fingers on both hands counting them.. and you know what they did (including me) .. go on with their lives. most of these people have been abused by family or friends. If you're sitting with others right now most likely 1 or more have had some kind of sexual abuse.

As I said .. without information about BS labled RSOs 'support' like this is just a 'feel good' thing for Gaga and all those who watch and feel sorry for the 'survivors'.
Not when my son is branded and none of them care that he is. To them he's a bad guy that needs to be kept away from their children, just because he's on a registry.

I totally agree Nak! I'm a CSA survivor myself, and I'm sick to death of hearing about victims/survivors.

Like I said, I'm good with programs to help with counseling and education, that's fine but education should also include REAL stats not hyped up media witch hunts.

And yeah, I don't care about "Vicky" either...seems she'd gotten her pound of flesh and then some. To use the lingo, she's re-victimizing herself for money. If it were me, I wouldn't want to know...just leave me be to move on and live my life.

Nak, I know you are angry with the system and the way your son is being treated.

We all know that "Vicki" and "Amy" only see this as a way to get a paycheck - forever victim.
Like yourself, many victims are able to heal and move on with their lives, then becoming survivors. We should be there to help them with that transition. We should want them to heal and move on, otherwise, we are keeping them in victim mode,

You want to hire attorneys all day to help your son get off the registry and prove his innocence, which is admirable. However, you are not experienced to know what to look for and may it see that your son's case (although innocent) may not be the ticket to get him off the registry. All you will be doing is spending all of your money with no action to prove its effectiveness.

Your money is better spent on an advocacy group that is fighting for the rights of ALL men like your son. Or your money could be better spent on ensuring he can take care of himself financially long after you are gone.
At the end of the day, it's your money to spend it how you choose, I ask that you look where your money has the biggest bang for your buck. Not sprinning your wheels and not going anywhere.

I watched the Oscars and when it came to Lady Gaga's song I thought to myself that this is not the publicity we need at all. I agree, abused victims need to be helped and supported, but the song did not talk about the many false accusations that happen on a daily basis. Those who are truly abused are in my heart and they need all the support they can get. It is just that it shines a bad light on all "SOs", even the ones who never harmed anyone or who were falsely accused.