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My dad and my brother were sentenced today. It was a plea bargain so we knew that they were going to be gone for a year but the experience was just a lot worse than I thought it would be.
I mean I knew they were going to be taken away.
I knew it would hurt and I knew that they do their best to take away as much of your dignity as they can. I just wasn't prepared for the lecture about what horrible people they are and how sick they are.
I thought that the judge would have at least a tiny bit of compassion considering that it has been 4 years that we have been going through this hell. She didn't. If nothing else, you would think she would have at least a little compassion for the family and friends who were there to support them. I guess I am naive. She was brutal.
I am trying to be strong for my mom and the rest of my family who came to support us, but I just keep thinking that there are two people who should be here right now who aren't.
I am just so angry. They never hurt anyone. They just had pictures. I know they did something wrong, but what good does this do? Its not protecting anyone, its just ruining two lives and leaving an entire family to clean up the mess. My mom is alone now with no one to help her take care of the house, dog, cars, etc. She injured herself last year and still has a lot of trouble getting around and doing household chores. I don't know how much I can be there to help.
I feel like everyone acknowledges that the sentences are ridiculous but do nothing about it.
I don't know what I came here to say. I'm just so angry and afraid. I miss them. We don't even get along very well but I miss them and I'm scared for them. We don't have county jails here so they go right to prison. Its a rough prison too. Level 3/4 and I've heard horror stories. Hopefully they will be sent to another facility soon but the lawyers seemed to think that generally for anything under a year there is a good chance that they will stay there. Who knows? Its totally out of our hands and I won't know what is going on with them for awhile.
:( It was a bad day.
I mean I knew they were going to be taken away.
I knew it would hurt and I knew that they do their best to take away as much of your dignity as they can. I just wasn't prepared for the lecture about what horrible people they are and how sick they are.
I thought that the judge would have at least a tiny bit of compassion considering that it has been 4 years that we have been going through this hell. She didn't. If nothing else, you would think she would have at least a little compassion for the family and friends who were there to support them. I guess I am naive. She was brutal.
I am trying to be strong for my mom and the rest of my family who came to support us, but I just keep thinking that there are two people who should be here right now who aren't.
I am just so angry. They never hurt anyone. They just had pictures. I know they did something wrong, but what good does this do? Its not protecting anyone, its just ruining two lives and leaving an entire family to clean up the mess. My mom is alone now with no one to help her take care of the house, dog, cars, etc. She injured herself last year and still has a lot of trouble getting around and doing household chores. I don't know how much I can be there to help.
I feel like everyone acknowledges that the sentences are ridiculous but do nothing about it.
I don't know what I came here to say. I'm just so angry and afraid. I miss them. We don't even get along very well but I miss them and I'm scared for them. We don't have county jails here so they go right to prison. Its a rough prison too. Level 3/4 and I've heard horror stories. Hopefully they will be sent to another facility soon but the lawyers seemed to think that generally for anything under a year there is a good chance that they will stay there. Who knows? Its totally out of our hands and I won't know what is going on with them for awhile.
:( It was a bad day.
all of this sucks big time, for all of us.
there are people out there fighting to get shit turned around but it's like getting a turtle to give up his shell.
I know it will be ok but I am just so angry. I knew it would be bad. I know that it could definitely be worse. Others who were arrested as part of the same investigation are getting 5+ years and my dad and brother have 1.
I just don't understand how they can be so cruel to the family that is obviously suffering because of this. Is it really worth it to lecture us about how horrible they are? Does that really make anyone's life better? I feel like this judge was getting some sort of sick pleasure out of kicking us while we were down.
Thank you for the support. I really need it right now. Today was just devastating. I sat in my brother's room and just felt this wave of despair come over me. I want so much better for him.