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I don't agree with the sex laws and registry.. I've always thought it was a little much, but since my arrest I hate them even more... I don't think someone should be registered for life for consensual teen sex.. I don't think young kids who experiment should get charges or have to register...
That being said here comes my rollercoaster I've been thrown on..
The other day in the car my daughter told me she's been having more clear memories and has started having dreams about a neighborhood boy touching her inappropriately.. At the time she would have been 5.. He was prob around 10 if I'm remembering right.. These memories have her pretty upset.. She's brought it up to her counselor for help dealing with this...
I do know at 10 the boy probably had at least some knowledge that it wasn't ok.. I also know kids still experiment at 10.. Knowing what I do about sex offender issues and how they affect ppl.. That part of my mind does not want to put this now young man in jail or thru what we and many other go thru..
The mom part of my brain that loves my kids with all my heart and does anything to protect her kids wants to find where this young man is and beat the living crap out of him for making my daughter hurt and be scared like this..
Like I said her counselor is helping her thru it.. And I am as well.. With love and support I know she will be able find strength to work thru this..
Its just sent me into this crazy ride of emotions and thoughts.. It feels like my mind is battling itself..
That being said here comes my rollercoaster I've been thrown on..
The other day in the car my daughter told me she's been having more clear memories and has started having dreams about a neighborhood boy touching her inappropriately.. At the time she would have been 5.. He was prob around 10 if I'm remembering right.. These memories have her pretty upset.. She's brought it up to her counselor for help dealing with this...
I do know at 10 the boy probably had at least some knowledge that it wasn't ok.. I also know kids still experiment at 10.. Knowing what I do about sex offender issues and how they affect ppl.. That part of my mind does not want to put this now young man in jail or thru what we and many other go thru..
The mom part of my brain that loves my kids with all my heart and does anything to protect her kids wants to find where this young man is and beat the living crap out of him for making my daughter hurt and be scared like this..
Like I said her counselor is helping her thru it.. And I am as well.. With love and support I know she will be able find strength to work thru this..
Its just sent me into this crazy ride of emotions and thoughts.. It feels like my mind is battling itself..
Good that you have in therapy. I am not a fan of them but i know they mean well and have knowledge about that stuff more than me.
I can relate a story about my daughter when she was 15yrs old. I found out she had oral sex with an 18yr old. I had no choice to report it. She begged me not to but because i had knowledge of it i was forced to report it due to my job. Called my coworker and it was awkward. The detective interviewed my daughter. Then i found out that the DA's office will not prosecute due to their ages.
Sure i didnt think it was right for an 18 yr old to do what he did with my daughter. I wanted to kick his ass. Even though my daughter told me straight up she wouldnt testify and didnt want to go to court on this, i asked her therapist. And she agreed my daughter should not go through the court process. It was in her best mental and emotional well being not to. I had to respect that.
So since your daughter has a therapist maybe you can talk to her about it. And support your daughter. Hope everything works out for you.
Nakohochi.. I'm thinking the memories r accurate at this point.. She said off and on thru the yrs she has had vague memories.. Past 2 wks or so they have become more clear...
I'm thinking the reason for the memories becoming more clear and prominent is because about 3 wks ago she tried to commit suicide.. She spent a WK in a facility and did lots of therapy.. Worked with the kids to help discover their triggers and thing like that.. Im wondering if those types of things are why the memories have become clearer to her since she's been home...
What she remembers is that on numerous occasions when the boy was around he would put his hands in her pants and fondle her.. She says he never attempted to take it any further than that and that it stopped on its own.. That's part of why I'm guessing it was kinda an experimental type thing at least in his young mind..
Idk.. Just makes my mind battle.. And not many places or ppl I can express this fully..
Then she tells me of other stuff. I really didnt want to hear it. Between cutting and bulemia and attempted suicide it made me upset and i wish i could have taken her pain away.
I am blessed she has moved on at 21yrs old. But in the mean time it is very stressfull.
If you are not familiar with NAMI look them up. They have meetings and i found them to be very helpful for me concerning my daughter.
No one called playing doctor "sex offending" There are probably more recent incidences and the therapist is just starting back at the beginning tracing her sexual experiences.
I certainly agree with you about sex between young children, even sex between older consenting teens. .You said, " I don't think someone should be registered for life for consensual teen sex.". I also don't think young kids who experiment/ fall in "puppy love" should get charges or have to register...
I am curious though, You mentioned at the start of your "rollercoaster" comment " since my arrest I hate them even more." What's that arrest all about? Is this trail of "memories about to lead up to more serious stuff? It doesn't seem to me that the touching between she and the boy could lead to the sort of issues she's had more recently.
"SINCE MY SONS ARREST"
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