honestly, he has got to be feeling guilt as it is. with taking his phone away and his xbox i think is punishment enough.

talking to him will allow you to gauge his feelings, ie. his emotional and mental balance in all of this and you can make your determination on how long to keep him from using his things.

with my daughter's situation she is feeling pretty desolate but her true agony is the thought of what her brother and i have gone thru. her thoughts of the future and what we will be going thru until she gets out. and then add on the probation and registry.

How old is your son? Is it something that you are expecting him to be arrested soon? You may want to look into a lawyer the sooner the better. At least have one on speed dial

My best advice right now is to get him into counseling asap. He needs someone other then you to talk to. This is so important for many reasons

He's 15, we already have a lawyer who told me not to talk to him about the situation because or send him to a counselor nas it can be used against him in court.

Please do not put him in any kind of school system counseling.... Find a private provider.... Call an attorney NOW if there is a chance that he will be arrested or questioned by ANY law enforcement.

Please watch the following video about dealing with law enforcement: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6wXkI4t7nuc

Find someone that will counsel your son for both the actions he took and for what ever is underlying that may have contributed to the behavior.

But most of all to protect yourself and your son, please do not talk to the police without any attorney, doesn't matter the circumstances.

i watched that video not all that long ago and boy oh boy did that ever hit home!!

good video and the very best of advice!!!

and I forgot to add... Please find someone to talk to for yourself and your family... this kind of thing, if it ends up going to law enforcement will affect everyone.

I to am dealing with a son who was 15 and same situation. I am available to listen to you, help, swap devistating stories, completely understanding your heart ache, and the Hell you are going thru and will go thru! I have and still walking in your shoes. Lots of love and prayer coming your way! Text me at anytime even 2 in the morning!

Well we did get a lawyer. Best advice I got from this site. This is just a roller coaster of emotions and for ppl who are not in my shoes its impossible to understand what Im doing and reasons for my decisions

I agree with Echo, judge how long and what punishments you enforce based on your son's feelings and such about what he did. I'm pretty sure he feels horrible about it.

I'm glad you got an attorney. When this is over, make sure he gets into counciling. If he isn't charged, then your son can't admit to what he did, but tell them of thoughts about offending, as they are mandated reporters, and it will start this all over again.

Yeah i want counseling for him but we will wait until we find out what happens from here

Yeah the fact your lawyer wants to wait for him to go to counseling means that he is keeping all options open for your son. This is best of he thinks there may be a chance for an outright win. In my situation there was not so I went to counseling right away and my lawyer was in damage control. My crime was done when I was around your sons age but I wasn't prosecuted till later. You have a much better chance of keeping it in the juvenile system right now. That is the hope!

That is exactly what the lawyer wants to do is keep it in the juvenile system. I think we all need counseling