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This is crazy. My husband's former PO (they closed some offices and moved everyone's assignments around) has been "just giving information" about how simple it would be to abscond! How to cut the monitor and where to leave it so not to be charged w/destroying it, what day/time would be best, the county's broke so they don't have money to search, esp. out of state, keep your nose clean and after 5 years you'll be fine, if you get caught w/o other charges it'll only be about 45 days to serve, etc.
He wants to come home; it's been about 2 1/2 years since we've seen each other, I get it. But I'm concerned about consequences for me and the kids if (small chance, but still...) he's found in our home. Like harboring a fugitive, an SO in the home with young children, etc. AND I'm an elementary teacher, so it could have consequences for my career too.
How do I tell him not to do this under any circumstances without making it sound like we don't want him?
And yes, to protect my kids from being taken from me, I would turn him in. Probably sounds terrible, but my kids are the innocent bystanders here.
He wants to come home; it's been about 2 1/2 years since we've seen each other, I get it. But I'm concerned about consequences for me and the kids if (small chance, but still...) he's found in our home. Like harboring a fugitive, an SO in the home with young children, etc. AND I'm an elementary teacher, so it could have consequences for my career too.
How do I tell him not to do this under any circumstances without making it sound like we don't want him?
And yes, to protect my kids from being taken from me, I would turn him in. Probably sounds terrible, but my kids are the innocent bystanders here.
Hi, ksteeler,
First let me say I mean no disrespect towards you when I say this would be insane, first when he is caught here in Texas and he will be caught, the county you are living in will charge him with failure to register, 5 year minimums probation and 1 year in jail,
second that would give him another charge which Texas would up him to a level 3, which means 4 times a year registering, home visits every few weeks or more while he is on probation, treatment classes again, curfews and no contact with anyone under 18. + CPS coming to your home to take the kids away at first because he was a fugitive sex-offender living in your home.
WOW that sounds fun again!!
How do I tell him not to do this under any circumstances without making it sound like we don't want him?
Reread the top part and tell him plain, you and the kids love him, man up take the last 2 years or so and learn something, then come home and be with the family, we are waiting.
Please do not allow this to happen, I am not as good with words as rew is, but stop this before it happens.
My best to you and yours
buildingupslow
Absconding is a felony so he will get a lot more than 45 days, under the AWA, he will most likely get 3+ years in Federal Prison...NO SHIT....BTW, for absconding, there is no Statute of Limitations.....
Thank you for all your thoughts; I am going to pass them on in hopes that something will click for him. If not, I guess I just have to say that he is NOT welcome to come here. As harsh as that sounds I have to protect us first.
Hon, make it clear to him that you will NOT see him or talk to him if he does this. In other words, give him NO HOPE of coming home until his time is done. PERIOD!!!
If he thinks he has even a chance of seeing you and the kids, he may try it.
Hoping the best for you,
Deena
Deena