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So back in 2013 my brother was arrested and pleaded guilty to 1 count rape and 3 counts CP. the alleged rape happened 10 years prior to the arrest. At the time of arrest they uncovered CP. my 2 kids, 8 and 10, were very close to him. So while he was in county waiting to plead we told them he just went away to look for work. After everything was finalized and he wa smoked to his home prison, we told them he was in prison. We did not tell them why. Well their dad, my ex, said he wanted to wait a little bit before they were exposed to the prison system. So about 6 months later, I decided to take them to see their uncle. They have went about 3 times this past year. My ex has never expressed any concern to me and then I get a letter from the court to cease all communication between the kids and my brother, including video chats. He lied to the courts claiming that my brother still transmits CP from within prison.... What?!?!! And that my kids do. It see or talk to their cousin anymore (the alleged victim).... Again what?!?!? They see her and my daughter texts her daily!
I am beyond pissed. And there is nothing I can do. Reason #1) my ex WORKS at the courthouse. He has the upper hand. 2) my attorney told me there is no way in hell that the judge would ever side with me if I object to the motion. And 3) he has tried to take my kids from me once before when I moved 30 minutes away. There is no stopping him again. Sadly, if I object and my some miracle I win, that only gives him ammunition for custody.
He is a dick and scum. And I hate him with ever piece of my being. Not just for this but for other things to. This just tops it all. I have told my daughter that her dad is no longer welcome in the house. He likes to hang out and make a big to do about it when he picks them or or drops them off. Well his ass can wait outside or in the car.
I am beyond pissed. And there is nothing I can do. Reason #1) my ex WORKS at the courthouse. He has the upper hand. 2) my attorney told me there is no way in hell that the judge would ever side with me if I object to the motion. And 3) he has tried to take my kids from me once before when I moved 30 minutes away. There is no stopping him again. Sadly, if I object and my some miracle I win, that only gives him ammunition for custody.
He is a dick and scum. And I hate him with ever piece of my being. Not just for this but for other things to. This just tops it all. I have told my daughter that her dad is no longer welcome in the house. He likes to hang out and make a big to do about it when he picks them or or drops them off. Well his ass can wait outside or in the car.
As far as your niece is concerned, neither he nor the courts have any reason to deny your children from seeing or talking to her. She poses no threat to them (whereas, they claim your brother does).
You could say that you are helping to support both. You supervise the visits with your brother (which is a no brainier as they can't see him without an adult regardless of what his conviction is), and that supporting him helps with his rehabilitation (which is true, which is why it's allowed).
Then tell the courts that you will abide by any rules they impose (forbid the kids to see your brother), even knowing it will hurt your kids in doing so.