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So my husband was just convicted yesterday. We're in the Triangle area in NC. they said he had until Monday (that's 4 days away!) to find an approved residence. No one can move in 4 days. Also, everything we check... every friend's house who would let him stay a while, every complex that doesn't background check, etc the cops tell us NOPE because they say it is within 1,000 feet of some child related place. Our current home apparently has two completely hidden basement childcares in the area, which are licensed, so he is being thrown out onto the street or straight into prison by the sherriff.
I can stay in the house... alone. fabulous.
The shelters are all full. The cops told him go live at a shelter. But they aren't taking anyone. We've spent all our time checking possible resources, talking to anyone and everyone, looking at maps, googling, etc. Everything we try, the cops shoot down.
My husband will likely be imprisoned (and thus lose his job and everything else in life) for being homeless, which they are *making* him homeless. Never mind the judge gave him probation, it's worth nothing because he has nowhere to go. Nowhere at all.
Does anyone have *any* ideas we could try before the time runs out and they lock him up? We're desperate.
I can stay in the house... alone. fabulous.
The shelters are all full. The cops told him go live at a shelter. But they aren't taking anyone. We've spent all our time checking possible resources, talking to anyone and everyone, looking at maps, googling, etc. Everything we try, the cops shoot down.
My husband will likely be imprisoned (and thus lose his job and everything else in life) for being homeless, which they are *making* him homeless. Never mind the judge gave him probation, it's worth nothing because he has nowhere to go. Nowhere at all.
Does anyone have *any* ideas we could try before the time runs out and they lock him up? We're desperate.
It's freezing winter; they def won't believe the car thing but that won't qualify to them anyway. If I can find a cheap hotel in an industrial area I could put him up there a week or so but the money will run out very fast! They say waiting for a shelter spot usually takes like 2 months! He makes less than 20K a year and I don't make terribly much money myself. :/
Every time we thought we'd found a qualifying spot with a friend, the cops say no to it. How can they give a person less than a week to move.... it's a complete trap.
I'm far more worried for him in prison than I am for myself living alone. He has PTSD and major depression. He gets panic attacks. I'm afraid he would try to kill himself, or just become completely and irrevocably insane in teh slammer. :(
I have two sons in prison with very long sentences. They are doing just fine, even though they are both SOs. They have friends and activities and interests they can pursue.
We lived in one (no kids) for a couple of years when he made parole but couldn't find an 'approved" place to live and so could not get released. (It's quite the education)
Him moving protects you because it ensures your address won't immediately be on the Registry. As a stop gap it works until you all can get your bearings. And if there is any chance he needs to move out quickly to prevent Child Protective services from taking away your children, he'll jump at the chance to move (even there).
Then he had to go to a really seedy hotel for about 8 months until we finally found an apartment that was ok with probation and the sheriffs office and the landlord was willing to rent to a sex offender. It was not easy and if not for the generosity of others I would not have been able to come up with the deposit and rent. He now is going to move into an apartment where he works and be an onsite manager. But I always live with the "what if"
Google Earth Pro https://support.google.com/earth/answer/176160?hl=en
(which is now free) will let you draw circles on a map. When you find an address that you'd like to check on, put it into GE and draw a 1k' circle around it and that will give you an idea of what's around it that you might need to be concerned.
You can also then work it in the opposite direction, when you have 4-5 hours to kill. I mapped out all of the locations around me, schools, day cares, etc as best as I could. Then I have a sort of quick reference to see what's up.
https://www.dropbox.com/s/h3f4gu76zekgy7c/WR-Perry.jpg?dl=0
I don't know how P & P does this work. Do they actually go out to the property with a map and pace stuff with a 1k' string? I can't imagine they do that.