As most of you know yesterday was Mother's day. I received a phone call from my youngest son(I raised him since he was 5 his mother left him with me in 1995 and did not come back) anyway he called me to wish me a happy mothers day i said to him why did you call me on mothers day? I mean why not call me on fathers day? his answer was well you have been both a mother and a father to me and you are the only mother that i have ever known. well needless to say that did bring tears to my eyes.as i think back to what has happened to me when i was first accused of i remember the police officer showing up and saying to me.you are not under arrest all i want is your side of the story.and like a fool i believed him.the thought never crossed my mind about asking for a lawyer because i thought the whole thing was a misunderstanding and after all he DID say i was not under arrest well.like a fool i went went him i did tell him what had happened i was drinking and all i remember i got up to go to the bathroom and then when i was done in a fog and haze i got back into bed i thought I was back in bed with the woman I was with put my arm around her then i fell asleep.to my horror i had made a mistake a laid down next to her kid i was shocked and horrified well back to the police he asked me what had happened I told him the story as i remembered it.He was not happy with that story he yelled at me slammed his hand on the table and he said THAT IS NOT WHAT HAPPENED!! and kept on yelling at me telling me he wanted the truth.again i should have said i want a lawyer the nice kind police man who only wanted my side of the story turned into a rageing hostile beast. I again told him what i did remember no he was not having any of that then the next question he asked me shook me to my core."at what point did you put your hand down her pants"? I said are you out of your mind? i did not do that well he kept on yelling and badgering me until i said well if they said that's what happened i guess it did. damn why did i say that? i wanted to stop make it all go away i thought to myself i am not like this this is not me i have a daughter of my own.and the nice kind policeman who said he only wanted my side of the story who had me come down to the police department of my own free will got what he wanted a confession did he say to me beforehand that before he asked me any questions that i had a right to have a attorney present? NO! so i was placed under arrest now some of you may find this next bit strange.while i was in jail for this i started to get letters from the woman who said i had molested her kid telling me she had made a mistake and here's the kicker she was telling me that she loved me and that she wanted to marry me!! she even had her daughter write to me as well telling me she was sorry.then i was told that she went to the DA to have the charges dropped.Oh no the DA was not having any of that they HAD to charge me. to make a long story short i was placed on probation and after all of this happened my ex shows up at my place at 1030 at night on Dec 5 1995 saying she had to do laundry could i watch my son.then she never comes back. the courts allowed me to have and keep my son while on probation i had to find work i did back then there was no sex offender list so i was able to work and to take care of my child.now as i think back on all of this some things come to mind I like to keep well Informed on what is happening all over the country i get on the internet and i read the news and some of the things i read about I just can not seem to wrap my mind around.All of the DA's politicians love to use the phrase "for the children" and "to protect the children" "sex offenders will repeat their crimes over and over" "who knows how many victim's they have"? from what i have read i have seen over and over they say that a 12 13 14 15 16 year old's mind is not developed" they(now i am in no way advocating that they should engage in any kind of sexual activity) can not consent to sex. now think about that for a moment they are suppose to be the "experts" on this they say this over and over now you take the same 12 13 14 15 16 year old now remember they will tell you that their "minds" are not fully developed and they commit a crime like murder or robbery or bringing a gun to school and then guess what? they want to try them as a ADULT what!!!!! but they are kids you can't do that! what happened to their minds are not fully developed!!?? then i read the comments people like to send after a story.HANG THEM!so what if they are kids they do the crime they do the time! some of them go on to blame the parents all of this and i think my god what have we become as a society?? to want to put children in jail.most of you know the point i am tryiing to make here.Now they want to put these same teens in jail for sexting!!? but they are kids they DA's cant have it both ways.and not only that some of the men that get caught up chatting online with someone who is underage but come to find out it is the police they are talking to.sometimes I wonder If those men would really have done it if the cops did not try and entice them into those types of conversations one can only wonder..........