The system is horribly hard on men. Still hope it turns out for the best.

My heart goes out to you. These "he said, she said" cases are tough. A good lawyer should be able to help him through this. I hope you have someone close to you that you can talk to during this time since it's not easy to go through this alone. I went to a therapist since my feelings were all over the place and it was a relative, not a son, so I can only imagine the pain you are going through. We can all relate to you on some level so know that you are not alone when you come to this group.

Thank you both very much I'm do glad I found this site

You're allowed to feel you aren't strong enough but it is amazing just how much you can go through. I know myself I just couldn't cope, it felt with every step forward we were getting kicked back 10! Its still hard but my husband 100% committed his crime so I didn't have to go through the fear of what the verdict will be like you are.

Keep talking it out, any worries at all, with friends and family who understand or on here if they don't. Right now you need all the support you can.

You are a mother! You are strong! You may not like what your son is going through but you will get through this.
To be honest it does not matter what happened behind closed doors. What matters is your support. Your son made a choice good or bad.
There are always two sides to a story. As much as i love my son.....i also believe women have a right to not be violated.
We have to teach our sons. We have to teach our daughters as well.
As a mother i love my children. Even if they mess up. I will support them no matter what. I may not condone their behavior but i will love them none the less.
My daughters boyfriend raped a woman. I still love him. I know he messed up. But i support him. I wish it didnt happen. I would be planning my daughters wedding right now, instead of visiting him in prison.
Life is wacked sometimes. It is how we deal with it. It is about forgiving. It is about love.
I pray for you.

We are all here for you. You can get through this. Please keep in touch.

Thank you all for your kind words. I tried counseling but this send to be what I need. We have the sentencing on Monday so these last few days have been hard but we will get through it, it just gets hard to get through the day sometimes, thank you again it makes a huge difference to me.

We will be thinking of you and praying for you. Take care of yourself physically and emotionally so you can remain strong for your son. Try to stay busy with work, hobbies, going out with friends you can talk to for support, etc. You will get through this very difficult time, but it's not easy doing it alone. Sometimes the waiting and unknown is worse, so you will at least have some kind of closure after Monday. Then you can deal with that and take one day at a time. Keep us posted.

((Hugs)) keep hope and faith...

Thank you all i am spending the day with my son focusing on the positive today. Tomorrow will be hard but everyone's support will help me get through it.

Sending you hugs and hope. My son was sentenced the first of November for a crime similar that he did not commit. It was a he said she said. We are just trying to put one foot in front of the other each day.
Keep us updated.

We finally got a break they have put off sentencing until January 8th so my son will be with us for Christmas. This one is extra special since my father who has Alzheimer's (and we moved into his basement suite to take care of) is getting worse and this will probably be his last Christmas he can fully enjoy. And we plan to appeal the sentence and conviction. It is really scary that the cops can lose evidence and statements and it does not seem to have that big of an influence on the trial itself. This has been a long 5 years and we have spent so much money on this (we had to sell our house) but I won't stop fighting. I really truly feel for anyone who is truly assaulted but after what I have learned in this process a lot of young men start at a disadvantage, considering per the laws in Alberta I could charge my husband with sexual assault. I really don't think that's what the laws were meant for. I've decided to use this as incentive to push for more education for BOTH young men and women since they are both parties to the act. Respect needs to be by both parties. This charge is very emotional but our courts need to keep emotions out of it and only rely on evidence. Sorry I needed to rant, thanks for letting me. You are all wonderful people and I'm so glad I found you.

Glad he is able to spend Christmas with all of you.

You are right, it's crappy how men are at a disadvantage. And even with lack of evidence can still get a person convicted.

Merry Christmas!

The sentencing was moved to January 8th so we could have Christmas together as my father has Alzheimer's. He was sentenced to 30 months but we will be filing our appeal shortly so hopefully he'll be out soon to help move this forward. He has been incredibly strong through all this and he is doing well. Between dealing with trying to get visits, making sure he has money (on,y accept cash you have to take in), lawyer meetings on top of all the needs of my dad right now I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed but you have to keep doing what needs to be done. Thank you again for everyone's kind words.

Bless your heart momslove91. Please keep us posted as you go along or just let us know how you are doing personally. This is not an easy journey and my heart breaks for you.

My nephew got himself in a mess with a girl he met online who originally told him she was 21. They exchanged some very sexual pictures on their cell phones. Turns out the girl was only 14 and my nephew was sentenced to 8-1/2 to 25 years. He's been in for 4 years now - he never even laid a physical hand on the girl or saw her in person --- ever. She even admitted to lying about her age. The courts are really skewed against guys and don't even seem to want to listen to the "victim" when they admit they had a hand in the wrong doing.

We can only hope that one day they become more fair and open to hearing the entire story before handing down such harsh sentences.