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I have been a member of this site for the last year and I have been struggling with my fiance's conviction on CP charges. He has served the first three years of his prison term and is about to be released in the next sixty days into six years of Community Corrections.
I was reading a post about how some states restrict the relationships of SO and even forbid adult relationships. I understand a need to monitor for deviant behavior but was shocked that this was going to be a reality upon his release. I had looked forward to picking him up and spending some alone time with him. Can this actually be a violation which will send him back to prison?
We have been talking about getting married before he leaves prison because we heard that they work toward reunification rather than the possibility that they will say no to our relationship at all and we will be stuck never being allowed to be together again. I do not know what to do. We have two small boys together and have worked the protective order down from no contact until eighteen to supervised visitation with no overnight stays. Would getting married now be a better option or can it cause even more problems than waiting?
I am so confused, this is yet another blow after years of weathering the storm, community corrections for six years, and lifetime on the registry feel like enough challenges. I can not even locate the rule that states that we cannot be together unless the relationship is approved.
Anyone been through this or have any advice?
I was reading a post about how some states restrict the relationships of SO and even forbid adult relationships. I understand a need to monitor for deviant behavior but was shocked that this was going to be a reality upon his release. I had looked forward to picking him up and spending some alone time with him. Can this actually be a violation which will send him back to prison?
We have been talking about getting married before he leaves prison because we heard that they work toward reunification rather than the possibility that they will say no to our relationship at all and we will be stuck never being allowed to be together again. I do not know what to do. We have two small boys together and have worked the protective order down from no contact until eighteen to supervised visitation with no overnight stays. Would getting married now be a better option or can it cause even more problems than waiting?
I am so confused, this is yet another blow after years of weathering the storm, community corrections for six years, and lifetime on the registry feel like enough challenges. I can not even locate the rule that states that we cannot be together unless the relationship is approved.
Anyone been through this or have any advice?
As long as they are his kids and the abuse he was charged with wasn't against them I don't think they can keep him away.
I notice WI has some conditions of release that include having to list / get permission to have adult relations while on supervision. I'm not sure that permission is needed if you're married?
What state are you in?
There is nothing in the law that prevents a sex offender from getting someone pregnant and having a child. But if you have other children, the law could prevent him from being around those children. The Tennessee Sex Offender Registry website http://www.tbi.tn.gov/sex_ofender_reg/sex_ofend... :
Can a registered sex offender, whose victim was a minor, be a step-parent to minor children?
The sex offender registry law does not prohibit registered sex offenders, whose victims were minors, from being step-parents to minor children. However, under 40-39-211(c), and 40-29-202 (11), the law does prohibit sex offenders, whose victims were less thirteen years of age, from knowingly establishing a primary or secondary residence or any other living accommodation where a minor resides. Step-parents are not exempt from this law. Therefore, a sex offender, whose victim was less than 13 years of age, and who is a step-parent, cannot live with minor children.