Families of SOs Community Group
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Since January 12 my daughter and I haven't been able to go home to my fiance/her father. As he is already on the SO status all it takes is an allegation. Due to an allegation 7 strangers went through my house in search of whatever. According to the investigating officer this all happened on a day when I was around but according to his daughter (from another woman) I was not up yet. Nothing happened and no one believes him but me. All my daughter (17months old) wants is her daddy and he can't even touch her. Here is is May and we still don't know anything. Haven't gotten his phone or computer back, or the cloths that they took. He's lost his job and can't find one and according to his PO he just needs to go to the library or the unemployment office to use a computer. With what money exactly? We are barely making by with everything thats going on. I feel so lost and confused. Not sure how to human anymore. I feel like they stole my smile, my life, and my new little family. How do I cope anymore
- became his Power of Attorney, closed all his accounts, made sure nothing would affect my credit. Even though we are not married, we had both our names on several accounts.
- sold everything I could and had a giant yard sale
- got the only lawyer around who would take an SO case
- moved to a small apartment
- increased my visits with my counselor
- used every resource for free food and medical care
- documented every conversation I had with any person involved
- did not make any decisions about the future of our relationship while I was so stressed out
- made lots of lists so I would feel the illusion of control
- PRAYED CONSTANTLY!
I had to detach myself from my feelings, be numb, in order to focus on what to do next.
Blessings!