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Hey everyone. I feel so tired now a days and I don't know if I can ever get out of this funk. Two days ago I got into a fight with my daughter about my husband. She had told me about 2 weeks ago, that it was annoying that I was always talking to him and that she didn't want to hear or see me talking to him. Yet two nights ago, when I was talking to him, she comes into the room and stays there while I have a conversation with him. it lasted about 5 minutes. She had told me that she needed to close out the apps on her iphone since I took her phone away that nigh and that she needed to say goodnight. I told her that she could have waited until our conversation was done. She then storms out of my room. I go to check what is so special on her phone and low and behold. She is "sexting" 4 different people, chatting with them on online chat rooms, emailing them, and visiting porno sites ( I don't even know how she did that, when I placed restrictions on her safari app). I pretty much scream at her while she is having a conversation with my sister and brother about what I found on her phone. We just end up fighting again and then at the end of the fight she states that everyone is disgusted that I am still in love with a child molester.
I search her phone even more and then I find text messages from her and my best friend. My "best friend" has been texting her say thing I am in denial, that she should talk to her lawyer about having some type of protection order in place because he is always calling and to let him know that I am not protecting her. So now I have ended my relationship with her. She also told her lawyer that she does to press charges here in Hawaii. I am so fed up with people trying to tell me how I should feel. I understand that they all want to support my daughter, and that 's a good thing. However support her, but keep they should keep their damn opinions to themselves. Let us figure it out together without there damn opinions on what we should be doing! There is more to the story but I will have to tell you all later. I am just so tired of fighting. At this point, I am fighting for MY family, while fighting my OWN family.
h3lpm3
I search her phone even more and then I find text messages from her and my best friend. My "best friend" has been texting her say thing I am in denial, that she should talk to her lawyer about having some type of protection order in place because he is always calling and to let him know that I am not protecting her. So now I have ended my relationship with her. She also told her lawyer that she does to press charges here in Hawaii. I am so fed up with people trying to tell me how I should feel. I understand that they all want to support my daughter, and that 's a good thing. However support her, but keep they should keep their damn opinions to themselves. Let us figure it out together without there damn opinions on what we should be doing! There is more to the story but I will have to tell you all later. I am just so tired of fighting. At this point, I am fighting for MY family, while fighting my OWN family.
h3lpm3
If the individuals that she is sexting with are under the age of consent, then she is distributing child porn. You can report that. Also, as for the fighting, it appears that your daughter and your siblings need to get out of your home.
As I have said earlier, try to remove all of the toxic people in your life. It sounds like your daughter and your siblings have some control issues and they are trying to control you. Don't let them.
I can definitely relate with your frustration-please try to remember that they cannot be changed. Try to let it go and live your life according to your rules and moral code.
Hang in there.
I don't know how old your daughter is but...sexting is against the law and she herself could be charged as a SO?
Maybe you need to discuss her sexting and her rebellious behavior with your own lawyer? Maybe it's time for her to go and live with your "best friend" or some other family member? Maybe it's time you both saw a family therapist. You need to find some way step away from the eternal drama generated by the pressure you are both experiencing right now.? It is far easier for her to be angry with you and garner sympathy than to admit some of her own behavior is out of bounds (like sexting?) .but you do not have to agree to be the brunt of her anger.
Just saw this quote on my friends FB page. "If you can't see both sides of an issue than you are not educated enough on the subject and your opinion is suspect."
Some of those "Men" could be cops in disguise! You never know who they really are. Your duaghter is playing with fire and is going to get burned!