I just found out today that my boyfriend is registered sex offender we have been together for three years and today me and his sister had breakfast together and she told me he was going to be late because he had to meet with his probation officer which i didnt understand what she was talking about.

I had met him at our previous job and i remember our manager once brought somthing up about he being a registered sex offender because he dated a younger girl when he was 18. Since the manager was often dishonest i didnt entirely believed her, but as our relationship got more serious i tried to talk to him about this.

Everytime i tried to talk to him about his past, because all he told me is that he had to go to anger management meetings once a week, he would change the subject or say that he would never hurt a woman... stuff like that. I thought i knew what had happened and that all i was missing was details, but when his sister said the stuff about the probation officer i knew somthing was wrong. So when he showed up for breakfast he looked extremely worried and he wouldnt even order anything. We had to run some errands and i tried asking him what was going on but like always he wouldnt talk to me and just said it was stress from work. So while we stopped at his job for something he needed to do i went online and google his name on my phone and the first thing that i see is his full name and address saying sex offender, i click on it and i see his face.

I cant describe the pain that i felt when i saw his picture on my phone i knew it was my fault for never doing this before and i just felt like this couldnt be happening to me. I decided i was going to give him a chance to tell me his side, When i confronted him and i told him that i went online and found out he just said that it was up to me if i wanted to just not seeing him anymore, i told him i wanted him to tell me exactly what happened and he started by saying that he was molested as a baby by his moms boyfriend and that his dad told him this, and that as a teenager he had acted on his little sister.

I just felt like i was in a terrible nightmare and all i wanted to do is to wake up and find out this wasnt real. He walked away and i sat there for five minutes thinking what to do, i was and im still in shock. When i went after him he started crying so bad, in the time weve been together i have not once seen him crying. As bad as i was feeling it broke my heart and i hugged him and told him that we all make mistakes and he said that his mistake was horrible.

I talked to his family and they were surprised that i just found out, so they told me what had happened and that he was still a kid when that happene. His step mom (the mother of the little girl) told me that she loves him as his own and that after making sure her daughter was safe her concern was to help my boyfriend.

His whole family supports him and they said that is the past and that he is a great person, that they love him and that everybody makes mistakes, all this time he was crying and saying that he was a monster and doesnt deserve to be loved.

I am so confused, sad and disappointed i dont even know what to do...

Thanks for reading and im sorry is so long.