The problem is, the registry is SO broad, that you're going to encounter people here on every part of the spectrum.
In my case, my husband is innocent, and took a plea, after going to trial and getting a hung-jury. It was what boiled down to a Hatfield's/McCoys type feud between our family an my husband's brother's family . They, for one wanted revenge because we had the audacity to call the police and report when my SIL's nephew molested my step-daughter IN THEIR HOME!!!
Oh, and they wanted custody of her, because they thought we got survivor benies for her, and they're all about living off the dole.
It is a frightfully long and convoluted story for me to go through. It boils down to I know my husband is innocent for many reasons
1) you can't be in 2 places at once
2) she tried her story out with a bunch of her friends using different time frames
3) her Aunt and Uncle were overheard asking, "if she turned the waterworks on, used her 'words', if she thought the jury bought it"...I HEARD THEM ASK HER!!!
Oh and a ton of other reasons

Yeah, I'll fight this stupid and corrupt system that does nothing IMO but hurt families and kids
You were quite correct that we are the victims... in my case, my whole family is.
and it is particularly galling to me, cos I WAS molested as a kid...they took what actually happened to me, and used it as a weapon to hurt my family.
What a slap in the face.
But ya know what? I'd rather endure that abuse 100 times over than to see my family hurt and be completely helpless to stop it.

That is awful and beyond unfair. I am so sorry for what you all have been through. Shame on those others for destroying a family. Karma, baby, Karma...they will get theirs'...unfortunately, you all are suffering in the meantime. I have no words to really express how terrible I think that it. It seems it is gulity until proven innocent in this case....this makes me sick.
My H is guilty. It did not go to trial. He plead guilty, but had already started therapy and all the stuff that goes with it, so they considered that. They wanted to throw his ass in jail.
You and your family are in my prayers.

Thank you!

unfortunatley, nobody wins, especially the victims

lulu my husband was also guilty he viewed indecent images and our life fell apart and my god yes we are also victims i am so glad you said if he had come to you this wouldnt have happened i stilll dont understand why my husband did what he did he has always been a lovely man and i had no idea we have always had a fantastic relationship and sorry to say this brilliant sex so whhhyyyy i wish i knew he cant tell me we have always i thought had an open and honest relationship i feel a failure as a wife because he needed to look at what he did and i am now victimised because of it so are my children

we had a great relationship everywhere but in the bedroom. I lost interest a long time ago bc it was always for him. I never turned him down and in the yesr leading up to this, I was the one who brought up sex. He was not interested, telling me that Mr. Happy wasn't up for it. He travelled most of the time for his job, and he was very successful and respected in his industry. Everyone thought he was great...a fun guy. There was no one I would rather be with...all was great....we travelled....laughed..but .the bedroom was nonexistent. From what I have leanred, this is typical for a sex addict...that is to NOT be intersted sexually in his spouse. If he was, I may not have lost interest myself.
So for me, even though there has been an std, lies...etc...it is about the kid thing....the child thing. It is the devastation of my son's love and respect for hs dad....or sure the other stuff counts, but this is the main part of it.