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I am so frustrated. We moved here a year ago from Virginia and have had nothing but problems. The hubby was on 2 years probation in Virginia and we never had problems. Six months after living here he caught a failure to register charge because they do registration by your birth month and six months out, so we didn't realize we had to register in May and November and not December and June since we moved here in December, we thought June was the next time. TWO weeks late on registry. Well, we should have hired a lawyer as we probably could have gotten out of that one, but didn't have the money at the time which now sucks and we regret that one. So then this past October they came out with a new law stating that you add your vehicles to your registration. Well, we bought a truck two weeks ago and didn't know that we had to inform the police within 48 hours. I talked to a lawyer and he said I wouldn't have anything to worry about because that only applied if you were changing addresses. I really hope so because I can't take anything else going wrong. We are thinking about moving back to Virginia but my parents are guilt tripping us and trying to control us. I feel really bad because they want to see our son grow up, and everyone says we can learn the laws down here, but at what cost? My husband going to jail over paperwork? It just sucks so bad right now. Sorry for my rant.
I would get out of there asap if possible.
This is your life. Don't let your parents dictate how you will live. They're not living the life you are. Be strong. I don't blame you for ranting.
I moved from Floriduh before my son was released there because of all those issues.
I spent months doing research on this before I made my move out of there. You really need to know, don't just take a leap of faith.
You might want to look at this. It also says your husband will stay on the Floriduh registry even if he moves somewhere else. These laws are crazy so it's helpful to find a lawyer who understands all this before you make a move.
From what I've read your husband would also be lifetime where you move.. but check on that. Call the police/ sheriff department in Florida and the state where you want to move. This is your life. Be proactive, be educated because now your husband might end in prison for violation of probation. Ignorance of the law is not an excuse, they don't care.
Don't try to make the parents understand, they may not want to understand, as it isn't what they want. My parents tried to control me for years, and did things to please them. Once hubby was arrested, and I was in counciling, I was able to address that - and stopped trying to please them. If they don't like my choices, then tough luck on them, as I am doing what is best for me, and my children.
Because of the registry - you have to be a bit self-centered. It's the best way to survive. I am just speaking from experience.
Grandchildren - a very powerful guilt trip. I am so sorry. My concern is that moving back to Virginia, while a better solution, has a snag. Florida will keep your man on the registry for life. Because he has a failure to register in Florida, this will probably come with you to Virginia if/when you move back. That being said, being in Virginia is a lot better than Florida.