What was the CP of and how much did he have? He was 19 at the time and it usually takes a couple years for a CP crime to be prosecuted. So that means he was most likely a minor when viewing the CP. If the content was of teenagers I don’t think I’d be all that concerned if i were in your shoes. I don’t think it’s completely abnormal at all for a teenager to be attracted to another teenager.

Is it possible to change? Sure. The biggest thing cognitive behavioral therapy teaches is finding what triggers the unhealthy behavior and fixing the cycle. But it also teaches empathy. Putting yourself in the victims shoes and trying to understand what is happening from their perspective. If you truly did the work I don’t see how you could offend again.

Will you ever be able to have kids of your own? Yes. There is no law that says someone on the registry cannot have a child biologically.

If/when he is off probation he most likely would legally be allowed to see your cousins as well. Whether your aunt and uncles are comfortable with that is another question. But for me I never want to be falsely accused of anything. If I’m around kids it’s with other adults around. So maybe he agrees to only be around your cousins with supervision.

What state are you in? This will go a long way in determining how comfortable it is to marry a registered person. If you are in Massachusetts it is very different from being in Florida.

I live in Ohio. He was 18 at the time and in the military. He got sentenced when he was 19 though. The children were around 6-8 years old I believe. I think he has to be on the registration for 20 year or so. Probation for 7 and he's at year 4 I think.

Thank you Fof1991 for not allowing some to tell who you can love. When I hear it right up front it appears genuine. The three things that a person required to register needs to be successful are; 1) a job, 2) a place to live and 3) a 'positive' support system. You need to work with him to recognize the triggers mentioned here. Depression, a feeling of hopelessness is major and someone to believe in you and walk by your side is immeasurable.

Thank you! I really love him and just want to be ask knowledgeable and supportive as possible. I just don't know where to begin.

So for me , when I read this, I thought to myself there are two sides to the spectrum. Brief history about me. I have been on the registry for 18 years, and have lived in multiple states. There is A LOT of baggage that comes with the registry. I know bc I’ve been on it since I was 18.
It really comes down to what you want, not him, but what you want.
He is attached to the registry for a minimum time period. He is limited on jobs, travel, family restrictions, where he can live, what he can do, even how he can act.
I longed for a deep relationship with one I can love and have kids with. I eventually go it. Bit now my significant other has second thoughts on it all. She said I warned her in the beginning that life is tough on the registry. She hasn’t realized it till recently. We have been together for 5 years, I doubt we will make it another 5.
Best advice I can give you to help you understand. Learn about the registry and how it works. Not just the surface of it, but go deep and learn about it. There is a lot of things the media leave out bc the media is all about drama and bad news.
Next, learn about him and his case. You need to learn his triggers, how his minds works, what stresses him, I wouldn’t be afraid to go talk to a counselor or treatment provider and ask questions about the general mind of an SO. It’s a disease and there is nothing to cure it but common sense.
I leave you with this, and I’m more than willing to chat more about it if you want. What are your dreams?
He can become really successful and do great in life, but he will still be attached to the registry.