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This man, a very public figure in the Christian community, evidently ended his own life, rather than face an investigation of allegations he molested a little girl. See this link for details:
http://www.benedictionblogson.com/2012/04/21/tom-white-voice-of-the-martyrs-executive-director-under-molestation-investigation-before-apparent-suicide/
Also, google "Tom White VOM" to read more articles.
When my son was first being investigated for the same crime, he left my home for parts unknown and no definite plan, other than to disappear. It was the worst 12 hours of my life, not knowing whether he had killed himself. He finally did call to tell me he was ok. So my nightmare lessened from an extreme nightmare to a terrible nightmare.
I know I should feel pity for the alleged victim, but she will have support and counseling the rest of her life. However, the family members of the alleged perpetrator will never, ever have peace about this. They are victims too, but society is sadly blind to that fact.
We need to find a better way to help perpetrators and potential perpetrators deal with their sicknesses, because that is the ONLY way we will be able to stem the rising tide of new victims.
http://www.benedictionblogson.com/2012/04/21/tom-white-voice-of-the-martyrs-executive-director-under-molestation-investigation-before-apparent-suicide/
Also, google "Tom White VOM" to read more articles.
When my son was first being investigated for the same crime, he left my home for parts unknown and no definite plan, other than to disappear. It was the worst 12 hours of my life, not knowing whether he had killed himself. He finally did call to tell me he was ok. So my nightmare lessened from an extreme nightmare to a terrible nightmare.
I know I should feel pity for the alleged victim, but she will have support and counseling the rest of her life. However, the family members of the alleged perpetrator will never, ever have peace about this. They are victims too, but society is sadly blind to that fact.
We need to find a better way to help perpetrators and potential perpetrators deal with their sicknesses, because that is the ONLY way we will be able to stem the rising tide of new victims.
It hurts so much to realize that your own child is willing to do such extreme things, knowing it will hurt you forever. I love my children so much that I don't care if it drains the life out of me to stand by them, even though I am their victim, also, thanks to the sick choices they have made.
But, it is very sobering to realize my children don't have the capacity to love me like I love them. I wonder how I failed as a mother, to have them grow up into such criminals. I've been told by so many people that it's not my fault and I guess I believe it. But, if it's not my fault, then they must have a missing gene or something, that makes them willing to engage in such risky behavior.
I am slowly learning to deal with this nightmare. Very slowly. It's kinda like a huge pile of tangled up threads that I am trying to unravel so I can make something useful or even beautiful out of them. It takes all I've got to deal with two adult sons who are sex offenders. But, I am trusting God, as I understand God, to enable me to cope and even thrive, one day at a time.