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I got word tonight that my fiancé is being let out of prison earlier than expected. He was supposed to be released May 11th and I am excited but also sad because my last attempt at getting him a place to stay ended with a denial of the application. I am going to pick him up tomorrow but I have no place for him to stay and none of the halfway houses will accept a sex offender. I just need some prayers to make sure that I can handle all the emotions and the difficult road that we have ahead of us. I am excited and nervous and sad and anxious and have no idea what the heck we are going to do but all I can think about is how good it will be to be able to hug him and hold him without the eyes of the correctional officers all over us like we are some sort of criminals. I am so glad that I have you guys here to talk to. I will soon see which of my friends are real and which of my friends are going to walk away. I have prepared myself for all of them to walk but I pray that we will be left with some support as soon as things get hard.
ThoughtAsWeak
Check into motels that have kitchenettes that rent by the month until you find something permanent
mtbfan
So, he can't stay with you? If not, hopefully, a friend could give him a room for now until you figure things out. It will all work out in the end, trust me.
Reggie1961
Good luck to you. I hope it works out, and I hope you have friends who step up and support you.
Seareth4505
I went through an agency similar to Habitat for Humanity which got me and my two boys a brand new house. A house that is too close to a school based on twenty feet of property the school apparently owns in the woods behind our house.....so he cannot live with me and we still have not been able to get the protective order on the kids completely lifted. He does have supervised visitation. Thank you for the support.
Suchaslife
Sending you guys positive thoughts. Can he stay with any of his mates? Iam sure it will work out somehow.
jlr2299
sending prayers and positive thoughts
october2014
I'm delighted to hear that he's getting out early! That's a really big deal, isn't it? But with that joy comes a puzzle and a challenge. Do you have any health care providers who staff case managers? Their job is to figure out puzzles and overcome challenges, right? I wish you courage and strength and wisdom in these days ahead.
tsmom2012
prayers to you that you can find him a place to stay.
hurtingfamily
your all in my prayers . keep us updated . yes its very rough road and it wont be easy witht eh hurdles and stuff ull face but if you got GOD on your side he wil get you thru them and and help u with what ever needs you may have . as he knows whats best for you and he said that we not to worry what we have to eat or clothes or anything . he will provide for us . trust him searchth . hes rigt there / yes this group has been awsome people are very supportive and encouraging and prayful . , i have none but my LORD my hub my son danny ,and this group . there is no support out there and to even for me to talk to a ny kind of councelor i cant do that either .people look down on people like those on registry and family . u will see there are people here who vent like me sometimes . and people youll find here that will try to get their voice heard to govt and groups that come together to try to get the laws changed . . we have 13more years this probation stuf and i think hub on life with registry . well be around here till the day we die , , , my heart is with you all and my heart is in this group . huggs . if yanyone in here ever.needs to talk we here GBU .
raye26
Where are you located if you don't mind me asking? Is he on probation? I know probation officers can give a list of certain places that will house sex offenders, possibly they could help with your situation. Sorry to hear that your home does not meet his requirements. I know how difficult that is. Prayers are being sent your way!
hurtingfamily
do u know the homeless shelters and even good will will not house sex offenders:( how is this all right :( some ministries in tn will not help sex ofenders either . . there was one on radio and when u called them they would tell u they wont allow sex offenders in homeless shelters:( well how is this liberty. not even place to live :(i mean what if a bad storm came knocked your trailor down ? where would ur hubby go .? there is no place:( we would be divided . , thats how people see people:(this restriction stuff of cant live so many feet should not be . in other states they a re fighting that . so they can live somewhere . to me its a right . is it not?when i asked for sec 8 help cause had no place to go , the question they asked was a loved one or anyone living with you ever been convicted sexual offence? once they asked that . i never went back to the sec 8 place to try get a home. cause if they dont accept my hub . and forgive then i wont be bothered with dealing with anything of that sec 8 stuff. its not worth the pain :( anyways i lived and our son lived with mom in law for about month almost ) prayed constantly . hub was in jail and i was havign to search place to live hoping to find one before he came home. and after so much praying and fasting , and all the LORD brought it to pass at the right time . the day he was released we was in this home trailor .across the street of his moms, cleaned it scrubbed it and made it liveable for us all . . . the lady that lived here 5 yrs ago , never paid trailor lot rent . owner took over and sol it to my mom in law which our taxes paid for it ...but it stil needs lotsa work . cost money which we really dont have . but stil blessed got roof over head .. anyways searcht keep praying GOD WILL open the door for your family . give you a home keep praying and .watch se what he wil do . he can bring miracles to pass . i have witnessed many .!!from no home to a home . almost my hub havign to move away of us cause our child . but with court order we have our hub and our son has his daddy here living with us .:) from hub almost 25 yrs in prison . down to 6 months and 4 half months to spend in count jail. but its 18 yrs probation . which is now 13 yrs . 5 yrs past this quikly . from ankle gps on him one yr to completely taken off.. dont give up praying and seeking your needs from above . . as said GOD is moving . and im praying one day this internet sex registry be taken off and restrictions be lifted our loved ones . the ones who are living right . in JESUS name , i will not give up ever praying for everyone and our situations
ThoughtAsWeak
I know sometimes it's not the facilities themselves, but laws of the state. For example, no halfway house or treatment center is allowed to accept a SO. Which is sad, everyone else is able to get help for their issues, except the SO!
Seareth4505
Well he registered today and they basically put him on lockdown in the hotel we found for him. They said he can't see the kids or be around his sister until the paperwork catches up with him and were total aholes about his charges. He is sitting there locked down in his hotel room until further notice. sigh. we knew this was going to b like this but it breaks my heart. All of his paperwork.says he is allowed supervised visitation.with the kids but all they see is his label. We waited all this time for his release and we get a jerk right out the gate. Deep breathes. I hope we can just be our little family soon. @raye-tennessee
raye26
Keep your head up, sweetie. I know it's difficult, but it will pass. Praying for you!
hurtingfamily
praying . dont give up
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