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My name is Amy. My husband Matt and I got married in July this year. I was 8 months pregnant at the time. We both knew that there was a chance that I was pregnant by someone else. I had just stopped seeing someone when we met about 2 weeks later. At the time Matt and I were just friends then later one we actually started dating. The other guy for the first 4 months of my pregnancy was in and out. I found out that he was actually with another woman when he met me and told me that they had broke up. Within the 4 months he would act like he wanted to be there then he didn't. After I didn't hear from him for about 2 months I decided to get on with my life thinking that he just wasn't going to be there. Matt and I decided that we wanted to get married. He is on parole for the next 6 years. He is also not allowed to live with children that are not his own, but since the other guy was not in the picture anymore we never said anything to his parole officer. Now our son is 2 months old and he shows up again wanting a dna test and for us to pay half of it. He also wants parental rights if Alex is his. He knows that Matt is a RSO and has made a threat to use that against us in court if he has to. The only way he knew about Matt is from my ex friend now. We are trying to figure out how to explain this to his parole officer and hoping that it doesn't go bad against Matt. Any advice on how to explain it? Also another thing that has been bothering us. My ex friend posted a picture of the back of our truck that has my husbands company name on it on a Facebook baby swap shop saying the male driver of this truck is a known sex offender. The site was closed down within the hour but does anyone know if there are any laws against that? We live in Arkansas
In my opinion, and my opinion only..i would approach his po about it ASAP! Before the potential real fatheror the ex friend does. Tell him the truth, that you believe the child is in fact your bf's, but there is a possibility it may not. Unless the po is a complete jackass , how could he not sympathize ?
Can the ex bf even legally force you to pay for the paternity? and if by chance the ex bf is still in a committed relationship, id make sure and let the girlfriend know all about his cheating ways, just to return the favor for the hell he has put you through!
My fiance and I dealt with many parole officers; some okay and others real jerks. I do not trust any parole officer. Both my finance and I have had to keep are relationship a secret from his parole officer because he can not have a relationship with a person who has minor children (my youngest is his). He has gotten violated for being with me a few times. However, the only thing that brings me hope is that he will be off parole in 2013. That is just a few months away. We have lived apart all of our relationship of six years. I have never revealed some much of my personal life, even on this website. Sounds like the ex just wants to make trouble, there may be some complications you should seek the advice of an attorney because of the label your husband has; RSO are treated so unfairly. I know first hand. Now for your ex-friend, God's punishment is much greater then our own; allow God to deal with her or him. I hope and pray everything works out for you.
http://www.scribd.com/doc/110952120/The-Sex-Offender-Registry-is-a-Prelude-to-Tyranny#fullscreen