I've been thinking about you and son lately, wondering how you're faring. Good luck w/ Lawyer tomorrow.

oh.. and now curfew! yeah!

the curfew will get easier.. when my hubby had one and he was working days, it really wasn't so bad... it isn't like we are bar flies anyway...

I know those first few months are tough, but I can assure you that things will get easier for you both as time passes... just give them no excuses to come sniffing around you and your business. People are usually pretty lazy, they will take the easier route, so if you make no waves, they will have no reason to do anything extra to get in your business. Shoot the way they transfer my husband around it is almost like he is filler to someone's roster rather than someone they need to really 'supervise' other than what is required by policy or law.

the computer thing at your house will change as time goes on. There are methods of negotiation and there is usually a process in which it can be earned. It might mean some software or a lot of password protection, but eventually it will be doable too.

He has No curfew. He's also allowed to have a computer, but it will have the software on it.
They're bringing his case here to PA, so the judicial side will be here. In case there's any issues it will not be going back to FL. So that's good.
The part in his release that says he can't have a computer will be changed to where it says he can. My son is not in a hurry for that.
But we're going to fight the sO treatment. Talking to our lawyer tomorrow. The judge in FL says my son won't be taking that only a mental health treatment... that's an issue for our lawyer to deal with.

All in all things went pretty well. The PO looked at my son a few times and told him that he doesn't seem like the 'norm' he sees in his office, and that he's low risk and thinks my son has a good future ahead and was pretty encouraging despite him telling my son he needs to deal with his 'problem of cp', which he doesn't have... but my son won't be telling him he accidentally downloaded it, just shaking our heads yes and smiling at this point. We'll deal with the other stuff later.

This sounds like a promising start. Good wishes flying to you both!

I'm hoping that because they're transferring his case here that instead of a lifetime on the registry he'll get 10 or at the most 25 years. It's a long time but it's better than a lifetime.

That's good news that he won't have lifetime registry!

My son is still in jail waiting to be sentence and he is hearing all types of stories about probation. Because 1/3 of the people on his cell block are there for violations. I keep telling him they are not telling you the whole story of why they there and what they violated. But I guess that is the only information he has, because he never been in trouble and has no idea what to think. Who sets the rules for probation?

When we were at the probation office today 2fbi agents were there and took away the guy who came in before my soon. Seems he had a computer with that monitoring software and he downloafed more cp. They took him right to jail 15 years for that. My sons PO told us about it and we saw the feds come in.

Oh how disturbing that you had to witness that while you were at the probation office. Even though your son got the cp accidentally, seeing this person taken away probably scared the dickens out of him.

Nope. My son isnt interested in that stuff. But it was interesting to see go down. I have no problem with people who are into watching kiddie porn go to prison. Altho i think our laws are way too much. If someone wants to watch that stuff then they need help and something should be done.

Who does set the rules for probation?

From our experience.. in federal there are federal guildlines and some things are mandatory unless the judge devides otherwise. It seems tho that the probation officer has some say and can change things when he thinks that its appropriate to do so... but we're at the beginning of my sons probation so I might have it wrong

Look into if he needs safety plans and appoval to hang out with others. The PO in our case was very nice to begin with but did not explain everythig and only after we were a day away from thanksgiving did he tell us my family couldn't visit my partner because he hadn't approved it. Yes my partner can go to walmart and groceries as long as there are no children, contact is sight, sound, and physical presence. There is has to be a safety plan to use a public restroom. Good Luck its doable but there are a lot of restrictions and to do's that they put up and then look for failure.

All I can tell you is what I said. I told the PO he had all of my court records. If he had any specific questions I would be happy to answer them. But, a general "why" would take up too much of his valuable time to answer.
No more questions after that.