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My son is 23. Young and full of energy. Just wants to me a normal 23 year young man. He has many restrictions. He is limited to go anywhere and do anything. He says he lives a life of a 40 year old man just work and home.
He wants to date. He meets woman and wants to start this part of life but he is unsure how. He is embarrassed to say anything about him. He doesn't know how to handle this. He can't take her to a movie, park or a walk on the beach.
Seeing him today all excited he met someone just little talking right now he likes that attention. But he then stops and says, in order for him to take her out he will need a letter from her signed by her that she knows he is a register sex offender and give it to his parole officer.
He says that right there will kill everything.... I am not sure what to tell him, i just say that the right one will come along someone you can trust and understands.
Has anyone gone through this? I feel bad for him. He has really good friends from high school and they would be willing to write a letter that they know about him because they know him no doubt.
Everything seems so complicated at times. staying positive.
He wants to date. He meets woman and wants to start this part of life but he is unsure how. He is embarrassed to say anything about him. He doesn't know how to handle this. He can't take her to a movie, park or a walk on the beach.
Seeing him today all excited he met someone just little talking right now he likes that attention. But he then stops and says, in order for him to take her out he will need a letter from her signed by her that she knows he is a register sex offender and give it to his parole officer.
He says that right there will kill everything.... I am not sure what to tell him, i just say that the right one will come along someone you can trust and understands.
Has anyone gone through this? I feel bad for him. He has really good friends from high school and they would be willing to write a letter that they know about him because they know him no doubt.
Everything seems so complicated at times. staying positive.
i wish you the best of luck!
I do have to say though, that right person is out there. He told me about his past on our first date and I made the decision to trust him. It may take a while but it will happen, he just has to keep looking and never give up, I wish him the best of luck!
Fast forward a few years, and I've been to prison, been released, and am out on parole. I too wanted to find someone to be with, as I was lonely and felt like I needed someone in my life. When I finally finished my parole in April of 2014, online dating became an option, so I tried that. I found a few hits, but every time I brought up the issue of my past, they all just faded away and stopped talking to me. Luckily my girlfriend BioNerd gave me a chance....
My question for you is (and feel free to PM me the details, if you don't want to publicly disclose the details), what county and state is his parole through, how long was the sentence, and what was the actual conviction? I've dealt with the legal process long enough now that I may be able to offer some advice. I feel really, really bad for him, because I understand what its like to be at that age, and to be basically told that you're not allowed to interact with others your age like a normal person. Its absolutely humiliating and ruinous to your self-esteem, and I want to help in any way I can.
Best Of Luck!
He is currently working with my husband and living with my parents.. His Stay is temp., at this time, pending what the Supreme Court will rule. There a lot of court cases pending right now, the GPS, Residency, ETC.. we just have to wait.
I do get frustrated because he is my son, and I love him so much. This does not define him. He has his good days and bad days, but seems to be doing good. He has a huge family support and Gods hand upon him.
Of course it is natural to get frustrated and discourage at times but as a mom I just pray and have faith that things will get better.
I am glad you joined us.
Thank you for responding to me. I just wanted to say, Never say Never. You never know that right person may just come along. I see your point tho. just stay strong and positive. I am sure God has someone for you and for my son. That is why i have my title NoGivingUp! cause you can't, you cannot allow that to happen. I will keep you in prayer because nothing is impossible for him to do...
God Bless.