only one way out wrote
I hope this was ok but I feel your hurt and so do others
The registry was new and I was not visable on the internet due to infrastructure issues for nearly 10 years.. A few months after I was posted in the internet I was married with 2 children and a wonderful career. Now, I am 38 and still married with 3 wonderful children and NO job and no one wil hire me even with a Journeymans Tool and Die makers card and Journeymans Machinist card, along with a Bachelors in IT Security. I cannot even get employed at a retail chain. The only job offers I have had are gas station jobs and a car wash.

I am the best father in the entire world to my children and raise them with love and a good heart. My wife is the most beautiful woman in the world and would walk to the ends of the earth for me and I would do the same for her. Everyone knows me and what I have been through in the town where I live and everyone loves me here and would bend over backwards in a second to help if the need would arise.

As my children get older and in middle school now, this registry has taken extreme changes over the last few years and has started to impact their lives as well. The State of Michigan notified all bus drivers and school teachers if their students have any sex offenders as parents. Soon other kids found out and my children are paying the price for this. Tonight as I write this is the lowest I have felt in my entire life. My daughter went to bed crying after some boys at school wrote things about me all over her locker and my wife opened up a letter from the State Police in the mail asking me to register all of our vehicles, cell phones, amail addresses and work addresses. She also read a petition that is going to the Attourney Generals office to mandate parental neglect of one parent is to leave a child under 18 with a sex offender.

Needless to say this is killing me from the inside and I cannot bear looking at them like this. To me the real role of a man and a husband and a father is to do whatever it takes no matter how hard it is to protect them all from things in life that can hurt them. I have a duty and cannot deny it any longer to my family. Every stroke of this keyboard feels like needles in my fingers and the lump in my throat is beyond comprehension. Monday morning I am transferring all of my vehicles and other registered items to my wifes name and I am meeting with a lawyer friend of mine to file for divorce. I can hardly bear thinking about the immediate pain this will put my loving wife and children through but I only find comfort in the thought of the relief it will bring them over time.

I have tried to fight this in the past and it nearly broke us financially which only added another hardship to my family. I have come to terms with the fact that one can be morally right and financially wrong to persue an end to something that wil not come in time.

I pray to God that my wife and children will forgive me over time and understand why I have to depart from their lives but it is my God given job as a husband and a father to protect them from anything I can...

I will always be with them and will be there in spirit for the rest of their lives. If all life offers is the ability to eat and breathe then life no longer holds any value.

This will be my first and last post... God Bless

hehehe oneofthem. i got an idea for you.

become an ordained minister. get 7 people in your church, and then write everything off on taxes that you can.

lifegonewrong - I understand what you are saying and how the many others in your same shoes are having to deal with this ridiculous situation. My son that is incarcerated will have to deal with this in 4..5 years, unless we get the registry abolished. I recommend that you join the RSOL group in your state. The registry is above and beyond what is necessary and it hurts MANY more than it saves. I am sorry about how this has affected you. Stay strong.

THE RSOL ARE NOT GOING ABOUT THIS RIGHTLY THEY WANT TO FIGHT FOR THOSE THAT ARE JUST RELEASE FROM JAIL OR PRISON. PEOPLE DONT REALLY CARE ABOUT SOONE WHO IS NEWLY RELEASED THEY JUST WANT TO LOCK THEM ALL UP. THEY DO NOT REALIZE THAT MANY OF US HAVE BEEN LIVING BESIDE THEM FOR YEARS AND HAVE NEVER HURT ANY ONE. PEOPLE NEED TO KNOW WE EX-SEX OFFENDERS HAVE BEEN LIVING RIGHT BESIDE THEM FOR YEARS. THE PUBLIC HAS NOT KNOWN THIS, THAT FOR THE LAST 65 YEARS BECAUSE WE HAVE BEEN ABLE TO HIDE IN OUR FAMILIES AND JOBS WE DO CHANGE! THEY DO KNOW, I DID KNOW OTHERS LIKE ME HAVE CHANGED I THOUGHT THEY ALL REOFFENDED WHY WOULDNT I, I HAVE NEVER MEET ANOTHER SEX OFFENDER I THOUGHT.
I HAVE A FRIEND FOR 7 YEARS, I NEVER KNEW OF HIS PAST NOR HIM OF MINE UNTIL I SAW HIM AT THE POLICE STATION HAVING HIS PICTURE TAKEN. HE LIKE ME HAS BEEN OUT OF PRISON FOR THE LAST 22 YEARS.
I NEVER KNEW OTHERS LIKE ME WERE HIDING TOO!

I DID NOT READ OVER WHAT I WROTE SORRY

The registry needs to:1) be private; for law enforcement use only or 2) abolished completely. If it's for law enforcement, then we are saying we are pretty confident that once a SO, always a SO, and 'we' need to know where 'they' are so that 'we' can control, monitor, track, etc., 'them'. To abolish the registry means we trust that treatment/incarceration/whatever deters crime, otherwise, why wouldn't every crime carry a life, or death sentence? We need to think this through as a society. I question so much of what is coming down the pike. It's less about safety and more someone having power and control over society. This isn't about sex offending; it's about loss of liberty. It is political, to say the least. Fear-mongering has been used to take power for a long time (i.e. Germany, the burning of the Reichstag; 9/11, the Patriot Act and invasion of Iraq, and now Afghanistan, Pakistan, Lybia, Syria, etc.). We need to see this as political, and as an education problem. We are in a cultural war; how information is presented, spun, twisted, is as important as whether the information is even valid, or true.

The registry needs to:1) be private; for law enforcement use only or 2) abolished completely. If it's for law enforcement, then we are saying we are pretty confident that once a SO, always a SO, and 'we' need to know where 'they' are so that 'we' can control, monitor, track, etc., 'them'. To abolish the registry means we trust that treatment/incarceration/whatever deters crime, otherwise, why wouldn't every crime carry a life, or death sentence? We need to think this through as a society. I question so much of what is coming down the pike. It's less about safety and more someone having power and control over society. This isn't about sex offending; it's about loss of liberty. It is political, to say the least. Fear-mongering has been used to take power for a long time (i.e. Germany, the burning of the Reichstag; 9/11, the Patriot Act and invasion of Iraq, and now Afghanistan, Pakistan, Lybia, Syria, etc.). We need to see this as political, and as an education problem. We are in a cultural war; how information is presented, spun, twisted, is as important as whether the information is even valid, or true.

The registry needs to:1) be private; for law enforcement use only or 2) abolished completely. If it's for law enforcement, then we are saying we are pretty confident that once a SO, always a SO, and 'we' need to know where 'they' are so that 'we' can control, monitor, track, etc., 'them'. To abolish the registry means we trust that treatment/incarceration/whatever deters crime, otherwise, why wouldn't every crime carry a life, or death sentence? We need to think this through as a society. I question so much of what is coming down the pike. It's less about safety and more someone having power and control over society. This isn't about sex offending; it's about loss of liberty. It is political, to say the least. Fear-mongering has been used to take power for a long time (i.e. Germany, the burning of the Reichstag; 9/11, the Patriot Act and invasion of Iraq, and now Afghanistan, Pakistan, Lybia, Syria, etc.). We need to see this as political, and as an education problem. We are in a cultural war; how information is presented, spun, twisted, is as important as whether the information is even valid, or true.

This new registry will never helped any one because if I was going to commit a crime the person knowing me is not going to stop me, and they knowing me would not help the police as much as my DNA from the crime site would. Matter of fact the police don't even need my name from the victim, my DNA is like my social security number its linked to my name.

The victim cannot even make the arrest, so why dose it matter if they know me?

My point is that DNA is left at any crime site by the criminal especially that of a sex crime, name is not needed.
It seems that our names make us a target if someone, if they use our names as my ex-wife did 33 years ago after I was released. Her new husband told her to call in and tell the police I attacked her. She did, thank God I was with my parole officer that day.

Even though she lied nothing happen to her, this brings up a question? What happens, if people knowing us because of the web site. What stopping them from doing the same thing my ex- wife did?