Uuggg hate birthdays without my man.
Try and make the most of it he would hate to know that your at home being sad.
You will be able to enjoy it when he comes home.

He is so lucky to have you! My husbands bday was week before last and it was so hard..I had all of his friends hold signs with messages on them and I mailed them to him..he was so suprised..he said it made him happy and of course sad to be away from everyone...I hope you have a HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
I was really thinking about this lately because summer is ending and my husband will be gone for all of the holidays and my birthday..One of my thoughts is this...I am going to be sad no matter what day it is..I am going to miss him and want him home..maybe a little more on special days but we have somewhat learned to deal with it..I think it may be a deterant from all that is sad..like..he is going to be gone, that I have accepted so we might as well take what ever we can get and appreciate the festivites if we can..He is gone I am going to be sad..hey, I might as well have some cake :) sorry humor helps me so much....I have worries but I know he would not want you sad..he would not want your day spoiled because of this..I know he will be thinking of you and imagine how relieved he will be if you do something fun just for you on your special day? give it a try and hang in there!!

Oh boy, wish I had known it was your birthday. I know that this is hard on you, but you know what, you will get through it better if you just try to think its just another day. Birthdays and holidays are depressing, but they are ONE day... perhaps you could sleep through it, haha, or maybe he will call you, and make your day that way. You must learn to deal with these days in all new ways. Fiance just had his 50th birthday in prison. It was depressing for him, so he just called me alot that day. I made sure I had Emmy here, and he talked to her, she sang Happy Birthday to him. We made a cake, and I decorated it, and we sang. We told him that, we took pictures of his cake, so he could see later we did this, we did have a party. He thought it was cute we had a party for him and celebrated that we had him in our life.

I don't know how you would do it, but maybe you could make a cake, or buy one and do the same thing.

I am sorry this is hard for you. But HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY SPECIAL FRIEND!! Give me your address, I will make you a cake and mail it to you. Ooops, might be a little messed up by the time it gets to you. Hey, I know, I could drive it there, my car is so reliable, you know. LOL (stacy rescued me from a car catastrophe for those of you who don't know.)

Drinks girl.......strong drinks :)

Hang in there! I am going to be going thru this too! My birthday way in june so i got lucky there. However, now i have holidays coming up. Its going to be tough. I even have his birthday in november. My daughter and i plan to celebrate it just as if he was here. We are going to decorate the house, make a cake, have icecream, and watch football. This is exactly what we qould be doin if he were home. I also scrapbook, so we going to take a lot of pictures of everything so we can show him when he gets home:)

All of the special days are hard. But you learn to DE special them, in some ways for your own sanity. You do the things we discussed in the other posts, but you tell yourself somehow that its just a date on the calendar. I even wrap up presents after I take pictures of them. I send the pictures of the wrapped presents, and unwrapped, what they are. Then I wrap them up again, and save them for the day he gets home. Then we have a big birthday/Christmas celebration, even if its not even close to the right dates.

It really helps to be like scrooge sometimes and say Bah hug to all the Christmas hoopla. I hate going in the stores, seeing all the decorations, I hate the music, especially the song, I'll be home for Christmas. You just learn to do things differently. Then you go to the family obligations, pretend you are having an ok time, for the others, then you go home. Then its over, you go back to your world, which is now your normal world. Normal it is not, but you learn to make it as normal as you can.

Kind of a negative way of doing it, but whatever gets you through it.

If you can visit him on those special days, that's his present. That's all he wants. Then you just make plans with them for when they are out.

ihatewisc...i feel the same way and oh that song. I remember having an awful tearful moment in the car on the way to work when i heard that song last year. I cant beleive its time for round two of the holidays without him.

I am studying Criminal Justice. HAHA that sounds stupid being on here. But no, not to be one of them, to learn how they operate, to see if there are ways to help people get through these situations easier, and maybe give them a heads up on what they can and can't do to them, or us. My assignment which I am working on tonite, is what do we think about police brutality, are the courts dealing with it correctily. OMG! I think I may fail with the answers I am giving. Then there is the Search and Seizure Laws, the rules for cops to be able to use excessive force in SOME situations, they have DISCRETION is many types of things, and Interrogations. The 5th Amendment says we do not have to incriminate ourselves, but of course we know how interrogations go, we know that they can and will do anything they can to " get their man". They have laws and exceptions to those laws in " certain instances". This is making me ill reading all of it. I know I am expected to put what they want us to think, but it ain't happening. I just told them I am taking these classes to work with people arrested, and their families so they understand what the laws are for us, and for the " authorities", and that the people are expected to not know, so I will help them, if I can find a way to do it and have it as a job, or even as a volunteer, if I have to, and work at Walmart, or somewhere til my dying day to support myself, but do this mission I am on. I am so tired of them getting away with things, by changing the way laws are read, giving them exceptions to the rule. Making sure we can't sue them in many instances, and covering their tracks 100%.

When My fiance and son went in the first times, I started taking business administration, and I did get my degree in that, but now have changed to Criminal Justice, to HELP people get through this even somewhat easier. We have a right to know what is going on. We love these people. We have a right to expect that people admonishing us, or our guys are following laws and rules too. And they are not in so many cases.

Meanwhile we cry, we go broke, we go into depressions, and the people that have them in their power are abusing their power in so many ways.

This assignment is on a Discussion Board where classmates read each others posts and comment. OMG I am going to get bashed so bad. I am sure most of these people intend to be police, or other court officials. Well, bring it on. I know the FACTS from living it. They are being fed a bunch of propaganda.

I forgot to say that this is my way of getting through all of this. It helps, but I still cry alot.

It is my present to him, and to all of you out there, to try to see if there is a way to make a difference, to try to see if there are things that I learn from these classes, that we can use against THEM.

So Happy Birthday and Merry Christmas to all of you. I will study hard to make sure if there is anything they are doing that we can catch them on, it will be told to you. I am reading every single thing I can especially when I hear of one of your situations, and seeing if anything I read in my classes can pertain to you all in a positive way and against a very corrupt justice system. It's time to take the bull by the horns, and do something, any little thing that we can, to try to fight their corrupt ways, and to help ourselves and the people we love.

We are also writing a book, me and Dalybird. This was our inspiration, gathering information and telling the world what is really happening out there. Will anyone listen, or buy our book? We will see. If not, at least we tried.

I am not a writer, have never been one, never intended to be. But my god, sitting on this site off and on since 2006, you realize how many are hurting needlessly, and how many are getting longer sentences, than they should, if they should of at all, and we need to know why, and we need to know how to stop this, if there is a way, I will keep digging to find that way. I am on a mission for all of us.

Next year, I am running for President... just kidding.

I haven't made my way to the discussion boards lately and just saw this post...I am so sorry I missed your birthday, but send many, many, many belated birthday wishes...and a few oodle-full buckets of hugs! I hope your day was bearable.

Thank you, bringinthelight! It was a long day and I am just glad it is done. He should be at the worst, at a halfway house for the next one, that will be alot easier:)