Families of Prisoners Support Group

This community is dedicated to families that have been disrupted by prison. Having a loved one incarcerated or having been incarcerated comes with its own unique challenges that require support and understanding. Join the group to find others who know what you're going through, and to seek advice or share your experience.

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Grace_haslett 03/09/2018

My best friend/husband is gone for the next year & I'm feeling guilty for dealing with it so well. My days with the kids are same as always. He worked everyday til dinner time so I'm use to him not being here. What I miss the most is cooking him dinner. I have two picky little boys so I don't even cook a big dinner anymore & that part sucks! Bed time is 8:00 & then it was our time together before we went to sleep but we just had a baby so I'm busy with him at night. I feel more guilt than any emotion that I am coping so well. I know nothing I feel will change anything so why miss someone that's not coming home at the end of the day? Am I heartless or strong? I don't know as time goes on how I'm going to feel & I'm more scared and nervous for the day he dose come home because I'll be so use to not having him. I love him so much and we talk everyday. I don't want to fall out of love with My best friend. Has anyone ever felt this way?

gregsbaby 03/09/2018

I have felt this way but in a different situation. My late DH was murdered almost 3 years ago and 6 months after it happened I got an unexpected surprise which was a letter from the love of my life (not that I didn't love DH) who unfortunately got himself incarcerated (hence why I'm here). Long story short I felt SUPER SUPER guilty because I was a grieving widow, yet I was happy because the love of my life and I had been given a second chance!

I don't think you're heartless. You have to be strong for your kids; that's not to say yes as time goes by there's going to be days where you cry at the drop of a hat. I used to try to not cry in front of our baby (late DH's and mine) but when I got in therapy I was told it's perfectly ok to not hide my emotions.

I don't think you're going to fall out of love with him, especially since he's your best friend and you guys talk everyday! Plus he'll only be gone for a year. Yes that's a long time to be away from each other but a fairly short time. My hubz to be and I have some years to go before our happy ending!

I will say don't get yourself in debt with the phonecalls; yes it's great to hear his voice but before you know it when you see the bill your mouth may drop. So go to the post office and get lots of stamps! Continue doing what you're doing and before you know it he'll be home :)

Grace_haslett 03/09/2018

Thank you!! Our video chat is $30 a month & I can schedule up to 3 in 24 hours. They are 30mins each so that's a blessing I think. He dose not want me putting money on his books. Says he just wants to talk & see the kids everyday.

Ms.901996C 03/09/2018

You're strong, yes and that's a great way to be! I wish I were more like that.

Be proud of yourself...not guilty! I agree with gregsbaby. Letters can also ignite the flame of romance. Keep talking. Keep writing.

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