Families of Prisoners Support Group
This community is dedicated to families that have been disrupted by prison. Having a loved one incarcerated or having been incarcerated comes with its own unique challenges that require support and understanding. Join the group to find others who know what you're going through, and to seek advice or share your experience.
I am not the only one to ever have a guy in jail/prison. But I feel like I'm the only one that doesn't have an end date of sentencing.I feel like its never going to end. Its only been a couple months and as little time that may seem to many of you on this site, its seemed like a lifetime to me. My guy is still going to court. We don't know what will happen with his case. We don't know anything. How long.. I feel so alone. I can't talk to anyone about what I'm going through and even going on this board I feel like no one really can feel the way I do..I come off as needy or selfish.. I wish people could understand why I stick with him and why I'll be here for him... No matter what it puts me through or costs me... I feel like an outcast for wanting someone to talk to... I reach out and I just feel like I'm being annoying rather than needing a friend. I have no one to listen or anyone that understands..
Many people are going through a lot more than me and I get that we all miss someone that is in jail... We all have men and women missing from our lives because of jail and prison but I just don't know how to cope. I'm adjusting as best I can. I still cry and he is my best friend and my love. I get quiet on the phone with him. . I don't know what to say to him. I mostly just want to listen to him talk. I want to remember his voice.
When you go so long without your loved one... you forget their face and their voice. I don't ever want to forget anything about him. I want to remember the good times and the bad ones... I want to relish in the fact that I love him..No one knows him better than I do. I am here for him and I support him. I'm doing all that I can for him. Why do I feel like its never going to be enough? Why do I feel like this is going to be like this separation for a lifetime?
Its tough to go day and night without my love... I am surviving for now.. My heart is with him. I am in prison too or it feels that way. Only, I have to be out here while he is in there. I don't want to go anywhere or do anything. I want to live and breathe and wait for him. I have school things and kids to keep me occupied but sometimes that's not enough...I can't do the chores I used to. I fall behind on my cleaning and laundry. I fall behind on a lot of things. I am ashamed that I cannot control my feelings. I am always angry and sad. I can't feel happy anymore. I just don't see happiness being part of the equation. Not without him... I go in bursts of crying...
I used to be tougher than this... I have to go through this.. I have to survive and be strong for him... but I 'm not doing a very good job of it... I just miss him ... I wish I could visit him... but I can't... so I look at pictures of us together and I remember what it was like... and I hope for what it could be again... life has an odd and evil twist of humor...
Many people are going through a lot more than me and I get that we all miss someone that is in jail... We all have men and women missing from our lives because of jail and prison but I just don't know how to cope. I'm adjusting as best I can. I still cry and he is my best friend and my love. I get quiet on the phone with him. . I don't know what to say to him. I mostly just want to listen to him talk. I want to remember his voice.
When you go so long without your loved one... you forget their face and their voice. I don't ever want to forget anything about him. I want to remember the good times and the bad ones... I want to relish in the fact that I love him..No one knows him better than I do. I am here for him and I support him. I'm doing all that I can for him. Why do I feel like its never going to be enough? Why do I feel like this is going to be like this separation for a lifetime?
Its tough to go day and night without my love... I am surviving for now.. My heart is with him. I am in prison too or it feels that way. Only, I have to be out here while he is in there. I don't want to go anywhere or do anything. I want to live and breathe and wait for him. I have school things and kids to keep me occupied but sometimes that's not enough...I can't do the chores I used to. I fall behind on my cleaning and laundry. I fall behind on a lot of things. I am ashamed that I cannot control my feelings. I am always angry and sad. I can't feel happy anymore. I just don't see happiness being part of the equation. Not without him... I go in bursts of crying...
I used to be tougher than this... I have to go through this.. I have to survive and be strong for him... but I 'm not doing a very good job of it... I just miss him ... I wish I could visit him... but I can't... so I look at pictures of us together and I remember what it was like... and I hope for what it could be again... life has an odd and evil twist of humor...
A little bit of time or a long bit it dosnt matter we all hurt the same way.yep there are times when I talk to my man I just want to hear his voice...I think that's normal.
Your doing just fine with this it might not seam like it but you are! Everything your feeling is normal.
Big hugs.
Don't feel you are being annoying. We have all been where you are. You aren't annoying me, or others. No one can give the advice that will instantly answer all your questions or make you feel better. It gets somewhat easier day by day, especially after you know his and your fate.
I know that it's a shock to the system to deal with this kind of separation but right now you're facing a battle with yourself on whether or not you can endure the separation for an unknown period of time, basically, if you can face your new life alone. The catch is that this is not forever but you have got to get a grip and steel yourself or you're going to end up cutting yourself out of this relationship. It's not what you want or what you could ever conceive but as time goes by and you get so worn down that eventually the idea of giving up seems more and more appealing. Get some professional help to keep your mind on the prize and remember that this isn't over.