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the waiting begins

stndstrg22114
stndstrg22114

Well they moved m my man from county to department of corrections yesterday I no where he is processing at but that it.... I didn't even get to see him but one time only had time to. receive one letter and he gone I don't no how long it be before I get to hear from hiim or see him it could take months to be approved for visitation I don't know how long before he cam write or call and I'm missing him terribly how do you handle. the not knowing all the time it drives me insane.. I'm glad he got to pull chains quickly though he will be better off and hopefully more content at least the next time I see him it will be in person instead of a glass now that makes me smile. ...

Suchaslife
Suchaslife
If his got paper and stuff he should be able to write strat away...phone and visits might take a bit of time.
I would start writing him a letter and when you know where he is you can then send him a long letter wich he should love!
As for coping well i cry lots, then started to climb the walls waiting for him to call or in our case the prison to tell us where he is...first 2 places the prisons called us!
Keep checking the doc web site to see where he is.
big hugs.
stndstrg22114
stndstrg22114
well he finally showed up on doc and I have his inmate # so I gonna go ahead and try to send a letter I pray that he gets it im losing my mind the pain I feel is numbing.... I had a friend trying to set me up with someone and that really aggervated me even though my man told me to date to live life just be there for him but right now I couldn't imagine doing that...then ibseen his mug shot with doc and they shaved his head and he didn't look like the same person at all and it killed me and then I think am I ever gonna get back who he was when he left. I pray to god I do ...thank you so much for being there not many peipke understand this situation and I pray they never do...
Suchaslife
Suchaslife
He should be able to get it. I totally hate the prison hair cut but just remember that guy you love well his still there bad hair cut and all! Yeah he might have to be a bit stronger than what he would on the outside but his still the same guy!
stndstrg22114
stndstrg22114
well I still havnt heard anything and today I'm going insane I done nothing but cry I'm severely depressed im not eating and now my days and nights mixed up is thus ever going to pass
Suchaslife
Suchaslife
It will it takes time....he will be in the same boat as you!
If your depression last longer then a week or so as in the state that your in now please see a gp/doctor!
ihatewisconsin
ihatewisconsin
The beginning of it all is the worst. The not knowing does kill you. But eventually when he is done with the first processing part, you will get a routine down, that will make it possible to get calls, get visits and write back and forth. Start writing. Sooner or later he will get them.