We did talk about this question and i know my man would. The best way for you to get the answers you want is to write to him about it or when you go see him talk to him about it face to face.

Thank you for your response. Sadly, I have not seen him in 2 months and it is going to be even longer as he did something very dumb so his visits have been denied for another 5 more months. However, I think that I will do as you have suggested to ask him in a letter.

I used to be the queen of doubt. I was his queen but I doubted his love for me so much and so often that I almost lost him last year.

Every week if I didn't get a letter it was in my head, "he must be writing someone else." If I didn't get a monthly phone call it was in my head, "he's calling someone else." We're a state apart without visits and somebody put it in my ear that because of this I should ask for his visitor's list every month. I did this and his voice just dropped from happy to , "wow I can't believe you just asked me for that!" He told me nobody comes to see him, which deep down I already knew this.

We never talked about if I was in he was out how would that be because I honestly looked at him as the man he was before he went in. By that I mean he's a homebody, not tons of friends acting crazy, hard working, just low key and laid back and us doing our thing.

Each day work on getting that doubt out of your head; Is it easy? No not really, especially as some days were better than others. Is he worth it? Yes! Definitely write him and tell him how you feel.

Thank You gregsbaby for your reply. Definitely some things to consider. :)

Hey Jaxgirl,

I believe that men are women are similar when it comes to love but very different when it comes to sex. Men have a more difficult time sustaining from sex where as women, have an easier time with it.
It's biological.
But...why stress over something that's inconsequential? The situation isn't reversed so there's no point in thinking "what if". Right? lol
Deal with the facts. They're indisputable.

Understandable. However, for me these are important questions. No, I may not, thankfully, be incarcerated. However, this man wants to marry me. We were discussing marriage before he was violated while on parole. So, before I do commit to this any further I would like to know if he is capable of the same dedication or even somewhat close as there just may be a day that I will need him to be there for me. I already sent him a letter asking him. So, will be waiting on his reply.

Both of us have great relationship - solid! We can answer each others phone, look at texts - we have complete trust and faith in each. Neither of us have anything to hide. While he in jail, I will not cheat and he would not cheat if reversed!

this is from personal experience,I know a lot will disagree with me but this question is kinda like the quote "You never know how strong you are, until being strong is your only choice". until you are put in the position like this you have no idea what you would do..

Good point brandnewangel. I would not wish any of this on anyone.

The way I see it is... they're the same person either way. If he wasn't locked up, would you be worried about what he's doing when you're not around? If the answer is yes, then you have every right to be concerned, but if the answer is no then why would you doubt him now? It's fair to wonder if he'd do what you're doing if the shoe were on the other foot, but at the end of the day, it probably never will be, and you have to ask yourself what you're really gaining by worrying about it- if you ask him and he says yes, you're going to be hurt if you don't believe him, and if you ask him and he says no, you're going to be hurt because you were hoping for a different answer. It ends with you being hurt either way, and there's no way to know the real truth. But if this is something that's really important to you, then you should definitely communicate that to him. Communication is very important!

I’ve mentioned this before too. Because there was times when he would get upset because I had to speak to certain individuals (men) and he would tell me just look at it if that was me . I’d be like um no that would be so different you’re a man . I’m sorry but I feel as man are weaker when it comes to certain stuff like sex.

Jaxx, I get it. Really, I do. You'd expect him to be as faithful as you are but....

Asking this question is like.... barring all female children but continuously wondering what it would have been like to have a male child even when you may not be able to have anymore.

Get it?
It may matter emotionally but logically...it doesn't matter because you're not in that situation.
Yeah sure it would have been nice to have a boy but the factory's closed. LOL
So enjoy what the both of you have now. He's not going anywhere, right?
Oh and maybe encourage him to be a good boy and stay outta trouble so that you can finally give him a kiss when you visit. ; )