Ok ive stopped by for a minute and i saw this.
First things for ya gotta keep telling them this isnt just to keep you san and him knowing that your there coz he knows that but......big but his got guys in his ear telling him your out doing the dirty (dont get shitty just telling you what his dealing with ) on him and you wont be there when his home blah blah blah....its all bullshit and sometimes they just need to hear it the ya love him.......yes we went through that crap my man told those guys where to go and they where judging me by what there women where doing.
Yes i did have bad panic attacks before a visit especially when I was waiting go into the visit center its not easy but its doable it really really really is!
Hugs

Hmm it must be in the water because G just told me he wonders about me sometimes since there are lots of men who know their men are in jail and prey on women. Now he should know I'm not going any damn where! We just have to keep being there for them!!

I know your right! I need to be here and i neeed to tell him and reassure him, its hard though sometimes being in this situation yeah you move on.. (with life keep it goiing) its draining knowing your partner is there and were out here its hard, but eventually they will end up back in our arms, god has a plan for everyone and im praying he has my boo home in march ! Xx

It is this time of the year.... they get thinking that we are out doing the Christmas partys and all that stuff and we have forgotten about them. So at this time of year as much as it sucis with them being there maybe write just that bit more send the silly, loving, fun cards remind them how important they are too you and what you guys are going to do when you do get to have that Christmas.......and trust me when i say this its soooooooo worth it!!

I think every situation and men is different. My husband was in prison for about 3 yrs and work release in Idaho for 2 yrs. Then now he is closer here in seattle taking care of the one last thing from the past from 2006... he got 7 months work release, we are down to a lil under 4.5 months. He never really had any major doubts about us... i say what i do and do what i say. I never done anything to give him a reason to have doubts, i go out and have friends both guys and girls. He never had a problem with it. My guy friends have been here for me thru a lot and my girl friends, and my seahawks family. Take pictures and send it to him of things u go our and do, make him feel he is part of it. Don't tell him that u love him all the time, but showing it to him that you do. I see my husband about three times a week now, but he is also working a full time construction job on the outside for high end houses and buildings. We are doing great... but its our attitude about the situation that got us to this point. Yes, we have been together before he went to the prison for the first time, we actually pretty much lived together. We had long distance relationship for 5 yrs where i visited him every three month in Idaho. I think any couple can make thru any storm if they both choose to stay positive, stay together, and be each others support. But also its important to have an outside support it makes it that much easier.

I agree with you Sneshinka but sometimes getting the support in the real world is a hard thing to do...it was for me. My man never really doubt me as well but i do know that there are guys in prison who do get the green eyed monster because our guys got letters and calls and visit so they try and bring them down just because they don't get the visit or the letter or calls.

Yeah same here Sneshinka because if I didn't have this support group I'd done gone crazy by now! I have nobody IRL to talk about King G, plus my situation is really different and I know people would be uncomfortable if I told them the whole story, but not only that I don't want to be told again I'm dumb, etc. for loving him! Speaking of love, IMHO I don't feel there's such a thing as telling my man I love him all the time! I do show him as much as I can through cards and Christmas I had a personalized book sent to him. I can't visit all like that because I don't drive and we're 216 miles apart. I've asked him once before he he ever feels like I'm loving him "too" much let me know. I'm his Queen and I'm all he has as he family as abandoned him.

Ah ladies i dont know what i would of done without anyone of you! Ive been speaking to you lovely ladies for the past 4 months and youve had a bigger impact on my life than someone whos been in my life 4years! Its sad as your on the other side of the world to me 24 hours difference! I tell my boyfriend about you lot and how much it helps! And how im thinking positive like hes out in 2017 how crazy.. he went in end of august and will be home middle of march or end of july so how can i be mad. Yet it still hurts. On the plus side i sponsered a dog:) £8.00 a month so that will be nice to get photos and little letters from her, her names lollypop shes a golden retriever shes gorgeous!!

Thats so cool your helping lollypop there so cute at that age.

Webb I got WhatsApp... let me know how to get intouch with u through that...