Families of Prisoners Support Group
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I just received a letter from my son who is serving a 10 year term (seven to go) for having child pornography and there was one sentence that broke my heart. He wrote "I have been battling some down moments. I take a look around and see where I am and start that thinking on myself. Going how stupid was I, how stupid was I. I always wonder if there is a girl out there for me? Is there one out there that will look past my deed that got me here or am I doomed to be alone for the rest of my life. Am I going to die alone?" I didn't know what to tell him except not to think negatively that to make the next seven years a positive move. With the way the public looks at sex offenders I often wonder myself will society forgive him and allow him to live somewhat a normal life that God has given each of us or will he "die alone". Can any one who reads this help me with this, to give him some encouragement.
"You are a good person. You made an unfortunate mistake that is causing you your freedom. Make the time that you have to spend inside the prison count, educate yourself, read, plan your future, do whatever it takes to build yourself up. In the worst moments concentrate on right now, getting through today, when it's a good day think of all the wonderful things that can happen when you have finished serving your sentence. Life is unpredictable, and possibilities are limitless. It is all about how you approach it, and what you decide to do with opportunities that are given to you."
Can't dwell on what it's going to be like when he gets out in 7 years, laws might change, or they might not. What is really going to matter is how he feels about himself. If he comes out a broken man itll be very hard to pull his life back together, on the other hand if he comes out knowing that he has paid his debt on the inside, and will unfortunately keep paying it on the outside, but have the internal strength to deal with it and work it out with whatever hurdles hell have to get through, everything else will come into focus eventually. He just has to believe with his whole heart that he is still good and solid person, then that is how other people will see him too. Hell meet someone wholl recognize that and other labels wont really matter. Itll just have to be a special and strong person, which will make their relationship stronger and more honest than most.
I do know of many whom have told me many good things have happened to them and including lives with good women whom let the past go...so...it can be true for anyone whom leaves their past in the past!
So believe in good things and they will come to you if you are working in harmony with your wants. So YES he can have a super great future!
Love Rhea
I talk to him everyday. What he is feeling weighs heavily on me, good or bad. It is so painful and I carry that pain throughout my day. I work and pretend everything is fine. It's tiring to put up that front. I'm recently divorced and my other 2 kids live in different states.
I come home and wait for him to call. I then just stay at home and start over the next day.
Lately, he has said he feels he will get in trouble again because he will be watched closely. I told him he needs to come up with a positive plan for his future. The problem is he was not very worried about his future before he was arrested. So he feels confused and worried about what will happen wehen he is released. It's a roller coaster ride for both of us. He tries to keep s positive act going for me but I know he is struggling.
He suffers from anxiety and OCD. He is not receiving meds at this time.
I have hesitated to join a group. I just didn't know if it would help. I would appreciate any positive words that may help. Thanks.