Families of Prisoners Support Group
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So my family member has been in jail for a couple months. There is a chance he will get out. But there is no one willing to cosign for his bail. It's been so hard dealing with the stress. Especially since it seems my family member is taking his stress out on everyone helping him. His case is ongoing.
I want to support him but I am also so angry at him. It says a lot when your family and friends don't want to co sign your bail. They don't trust him. He has not listened in the past. The truth is people think that he is irresponsible. Even though things are looking up for him and he may be able to be proven innocent it doesn't change the fact that he is a poor decision maker.
I don't think he understands how heavy it is to cosign for bail money. I'm not even sure where he is going to live. Again no one wants to take him in. I've been going crazy looking up local shelters and even trying to see if I can find him a mentor to lessen his chances of getting in with the wrong crowd and falling into bad habits.
His case may go to trial. I just don't know how do I support him when I am so angry at him?. Even after all this I managed to get all the money together and all the cosigners. He is still locked up.
I want to support him but I am also so angry at him. It says a lot when your family and friends don't want to co sign your bail. They don't trust him. He has not listened in the past. The truth is people think that he is irresponsible. Even though things are looking up for him and he may be able to be proven innocent it doesn't change the fact that he is a poor decision maker.
I don't think he understands how heavy it is to cosign for bail money. I'm not even sure where he is going to live. Again no one wants to take him in. I've been going crazy looking up local shelters and even trying to see if I can find him a mentor to lessen his chances of getting in with the wrong crowd and falling into bad habits.
His case may go to trial. I just don't know how do I support him when I am so angry at him?. Even after all this I managed to get all the money together and all the cosigners. He is still locked up.
He did take a class in prison on how to change your thinking. He signed up for it. They go through different scenarios, then ask them how they would react to it. If their thinking process is wrong, they will address that. It isn't easy on them, but it may help. I don't know if he would be willing to take that kind of thing, if they have it, but he should. Delicately see if there is something like that there he would be willing to take.
I guess he has to come to the conclusion that there is a reason people won't co sign.
It's sad, but reality for him. You can't tackle all of his problems by yourself, and he has to be willing to suck it up, beg, apologize, whatever it takes.
You are being wonderful doing all you are for him. He better show you some appreciation.
I found the answer to that question after I finally saw him. That was it for me. I still worry about him. I still want him to be safe and happy. I don't want to see him in pain. There's 3 sides to every story. After all that trouble he will not leave jail for now. The journey continues.