So sorry you're having a hard time with all of this. I can relate totally with a child that doesn't like your new spouse. I also had to deal with this and in the same time frame as you were single, 4 years. My son hated my late husband and told anyone who'd listen and even put it on his fb page. He called me every name but a child of God when he found out we were pregnant. Needless to say he didn't come to the wedding, which was fine by the both of us. He didn't come to the funeral either, which was really fine with me because I didn't want him there since he hated him and deep down was glad he was gone (he never verbally told me but I knew). I had to learn that when I married my DH that it was ok and I didn't do anything wrong! Like you I was always close to him, but he was grown and on his own and I wasn't about to be the cat lady! It does suck because last June my first grandchild was born, but I have to think about the baby DH and I have! So you have to continue to be happy with the choice you made to marry him.

It's hard for people to understand why someone would wait for someone locked up. Especially if they have a lengthy sentence. You're not alone as we're all going through it in this group. Please don't get a vice to deal with the separation because that won't be good for either of you. Try to find a hobby or two to keep you busy. You can always write him daily; it doesn't have to be long ones. When he calls let him know how you're really feeling, pretending isn't good, plus if he's anything like my fiance he knows when you're faking. You can do this just take things one day at a time. Big hugs!

You can always come here whenever you need to talk to anyone, we all understand what its like having a loved one in the system and its not easy at all. Try your best to not turn to a negative "vice" it will only create more problems and isn't going to help anything. Try finding healthy was to cope, and if you need to see your doctor please do. This situation is hard and sometimes you need the extra help. As far as friends go, i think this situation really puts people to the test on who is real and who is only there when things are good, its hard and can be lonely but i guess i would rather be lonely then surround by fake people. Im sorry to hear about your kids and i hope that will get worked out with time. Try to keep your head up and focus on taking care of yourself! also write to him whenever you miss him, it really can help. Thoughts and prayers to you!

My kids were grown when I met my bf too. They had their own lives. I didn't get to say what they did, it who they were with. But mine instantly hated him. He's the complete opposite of their boring dad.

Sure didn't help he got a probation violation and went to prison shortly after we got together. And it was because a ex still wanted him, and he'd met me, so she called his PO and lied about something to get him sent back.

Fast forward eighteen years. We're still together, and finally half of my family accepts and likes him. My dad actually tells him he loves him like a son.

My family had both to do with him for YEARS, not because they really knew him, but because they'd heard bogus crap, and looked up his record.

He has a bad drinking problem for years. Hence many DUI's. My brother's are drunks. No one banished them from the family.

It's one thing for family to state their feelings. But mine were vicious. They shouldn't get to decide who we love.

Sure life has been difficult living through drinking, then him gone four times to prison. But I know the good parts of him. I held out, It was and is worth it.