Hello! Can you tell us a bit about what's making you sad.

So my husband was sentenced to 10 years. This happened early this year and I have been trying to figure things out. I am sad because I cannot see him yet. Where they sent him is pretty far to drive and I have not been approved to see him yet. I do not understand how we got to this point. We will be married this summer 35 years. Nothing makes any sense.

Oh wow 35 years?!! That's awesome!!

I know it's a crappy time right now but you guys are going to get through this, just look how long you've come this far! I'm sure during those 35 years hasn't been rainbows/sunshine daily, but you guys got through it and this too shall pass!

As far as being approved for calls/visits it does take awhile and it seems like they take their own "sweet" time. Be patient it'll happen eventually. In the meantime maybe you could start writing letters if you haven't already. Letters are pure gold to them :)

Try to relax and take deep breaths and not keep wrecking your brains trying to figure out why he's in there, because you can't go back. Right now he needs you more than ever! One day at a time, one step at a time. I have a wonderful friend that told me they can't stop time and keep him forever; He'll be home. Big hugs!

No judgment here!!

Sit down and start writing to him you guys might be able to work some of this stuff out in letters believe it or not!
Prison take there own sweet time with well everything (sorry just got distracted by one of my bunny's who has carrot juice all over her!) Including how long it takes to process the visit information and letters.

Rest assured you can come here to vent or cry we get it.

Big hugs

Came to the right place..... Letters are a must.... And the cheapest option. Visiting once approved will be good but if hes far then probably wont be often. Find your ways to stay within a budget you can manage. Make sure to not overspend on the phone calls and visiting (emails or video calls if available)... It all adds up quick. You will get through this. I'm not even married yet but can only imagine 35 years from now. That's strength so you all can definitely get through this!!! Positive vibes and virtual hugs your way!

Also need friends here been dating for a year now and have until 2039 to go and now he can’t even call me prison has been on lockdown for 3 weeks I’m freaking going crazy

Yup....lockdowns suck. We know...we feel your pain.
Keep yourself busy. Listen to happy songs. Treat yourself to an icecream.

It's the little things that'll get you though shitty times like this.
Hugs!