Families of Prisoners Support Group
This community is dedicated to families that have been disrupted by prison. Having a loved one incarcerated or having been incarcerated comes with its own unique challenges that require support and understanding. Join the group to find others who know what you're going through, and to seek advice or share your experience.
My ex-boyfriend has been incarcerated for the past 2.5 months in jail. He will be going to prison for hopefully 5 yrs. He left me after 9 months together/living together for 7 months. He got arrested 3 weeks after our breakup. After he was arrested I found out the truth about him. He had absconded from parole (MI) and the day i was going to visit him after his arrest he called me to tell me there was someone else(girlfriend). I love him and i want to be there for him throughout his incarceration. However, i don't know what role to play. I've gone to visit him, he calls me once or twice a day. He asks me to play music for him over the phone, send him song lyrics, contact family members for him, write to him 2x/3x a week, send pictures, add money to comissary. I am lost because his girlfriend of 1 month...is she suppose to be doing the above mentioned things? He says he feels comfortable asking me. I have told him that i want us to get back together again, but he says that he can't be thinking about that right now. He says we are friends, so as a friend how much am i suppose to do for him? Don't know if he is just play with my feelings. He says for us to take it one day at a time. Do women girlfriends wait for the man to come out of prison? I don't want to push hime i love him, but i don't want him to play with my feelings either. I tried to tell him for us to talk less cut our phone conversations to 3x a week and he freaked out telling me not to write or visit, but then he called me 3 days later. I need some advice. I am so lost.
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Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
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Once again I've had a fever today. I'm not going to the hospital because that's a huge waste of time but I did schedule a dr appointment for Wednesday afternoon.
It doesn't seem to me that he wants much of a relationship with you from what you're writing
He wrote that he thinks of you as a friend but that's not how friends behave...
They don't lie and cheat on each other and order people to provide for everything that they want.... That isn't friendship..... Friends don't use you.....
I don't think that he's a good guy for you from what you're writing sweetie and this isn't about the fact that he's incarcerated but about how he's treating you..... He treats you so disrespectfully ….
. I hope that you can find it in you to stand up for you
He wants you to wait on him hand and foot and provide for him.... I think he's using you
I would take his advise and break off contact.... Get some help for yourself and for your self esteem
We often tell people how to treat us by the way we treat ourselves... You need to value yourself Hope..... He's not treating you with the respect that you deserve
I'm not writing this to hurt you... I am trying to help.... big hug.....xo