Hmmmm maybe talk to your doctor about what's going on they may be able to help.
Yes I still cry at the most oddest things and I've been doing this for a bit now. When you guys get into a bit of a routine with calls and vitsits and writing it gets a bit easyer its the bit in between all that wich is hard and the not knowing is the worst as well.
Hang in there it will be ok.
Hugs me.

I can't hang in there. I can't stop crying... I have to work and I'm trying to hide it all but I can't. My dr can't see me for two weeks... I don't know what to do...

Having a major setback today.... Just not a good day for anything. His face makes me feel like a failure. I couldn't get him out of there... The pain of longing and missing him is at an all time high today... Thanks for your concern.

Crying a lot is normal. Really. It would be strange if you weren't. But camping out in Crying Land isn't healthy. The more you look at your problems, the worse you will feel, and that can put you in a death spiral. You have to move on, even if the journey ahead looks difficult.

SuchAs is right about finding a doctor you can talk to. Some doctors don't have time, but some will make time. You may be directed to a counseling service - if so, take it and find someone you can tell your story to. (My counselor also has clients who are ex-offenders, so she knows about some of the things that make me upset.)

Another thing that's a really big help - even if you can't see it right now - is finding something that's beyond you to be a part of, whether it's a volunteer opportunity or a church group or something that benefits your community. When you're busy taking care of other folks, you're in a different zone - a place where you can leave your troubles behind.

Missing him doesn't ever go away, but your response to his absence can be changed, and you can learn to live for the future and make plans for the time that you will be together again.

Do you have a private place where you can go to scream? Maybe that will help. Maybe some tough housework or yard work will help. Dance. Sing. Do a hundred jumping jacks. Run.

Thanks for all the support... No, I don't have a place to scream. I have three kids so its difficult to hide all of this around them. They want to know where he is.. if he's coming back..etc.. Talking about him makes the tears flow a lot faster.. I tried loud music today but I still heard my thoughts and cried... Yes, I know that crying is normal but this is a bit excessive. I can't go one hour without crying let alone ten minutes. Its affecting my job. I have so much to do that I can't explain why isn't done. I used to go running with him. We were both into fitness. Now every time I try to go I think of him and start to cry... Its hopeless. I just want a normal day... Counting down to the court date is also on my nerves. We go on October 10 to see what they are going to do on some of the charges...

If you have a car after work get in it crank the music and scream in there it helps.
Not knowing is the worst part of all this.

Yea... I can't handle much more of the not knowing.. October 10th he goes to court so I hope to at least see him or hear from him before then.. that's the hope anyway.. Doubt it'll happen.. Kinda losing hope in all this... Spirits are down tonight.. again.. just a constant draining I'm not hungry again.. tried to force myself but i felt even more sick.. just having water.. at least I can do that... music is on tonight. we were doing laundry... it didn't help. I only did it cuz my daughter made me...

Oh that sucks I have been there too....try mush potato its fulling and keep drinking water!
Hang in there.....at least you got the washing done that's a good start.

I cry a lot still and he has been in since beginning of June. some days are okay and then i go through periods with non stop crying. I have 4 kids, no job and we live with my mother because the bank took my house in March. One shitty thing after another. I had to force myself to look at what I have to be thankful for. My sweet kids. Love them so much and thank god that i have them to live for. If not for them i would probably lie in bed and cry all day. Today was hard, an old creditor took all the money out of my bank account. I get social security for my kids because their dad is disabled. They took it even though they are not supposed to take social security. I called and called the bank, creditor, court. Nobody gives a shit about me or my kids, that is the hardest thing. People can be so cold... I don't know what direction to turn... Sorry about rambling. That just came all out and it's really got nothing to do with you. Felt good to get it out of me though. Maybe that could work for you though. Write everything down that you are thinking? Your doctor should be able to get to you sooner, geesh. Tell them it's an emergency for crying out loud! It will get better, but it will take time. Can you maybe take a couple days vacation time or something? Maybe a bit of chamomile tea or something soothing? Are you into meditation or yoga? There are some good apps you can put on your phone that can guide you , they play soothing music and can train you to slow down your breathing? Sometimes they help me. My hubby and I used to listen to them together and sometimes they would make us laugh because they were kinda goofy. A laugh can do wonders for you. There is a thread on here about embarrassing moments and funny stories. Check it out and don't be afraid to add your crazy story if ya have one. We could all use a good chuckle! I hope you hear from him soon... :)

Hopemagnet, its ok to ramble on about problems. I get it. It sucks they got to take your money that you need for your kids.. I'm sorry. I had a creditor trying to do that to me but I got a lawyer paid via my job and he took care of it.. for now anyway... It never does stop.. its the man, the house, the bills, old bills finding a way to get you..etc.. something is always going on... at the worst timing.. I;m glad you are feeling a little better. I was hoping to get to my dr earlier than that too.. especially with the circumstances and the fact I have a post partum depression history... no such luck though.. I don't want a day off. I'll go stir crasy! I hope I hear from him soon too...

When my Hub was arrested, I had to take time off work as I completely fell apart. If you can't function, talk to your boss, tell them that you are unable to work due to stress of a personal situation. Then start a claim for Family Medical leave with the state. Call your doctor and tell them you need an emergency apt as you are going through an emotional breakdown and need help and get papers signed for FML.

I was only approved for 30 days, but that was enough that I was medicated and was able to start functioning again. Still wasn't fully ready to be back, and my boss could tell, so he gave me some slack.

This a traumatic event and if you can't hold it together, then you need to get help. You need anti- depressants and you need to start seeing a councilor. Both will help you during this period. I'm 16 months into it, and still have ocassional crying episodes, but not as much as in the beginning, and able to hold it together at work.

I know exactly how you feel. I will be fine and strong for so long then one little thing makes me break down. Let it out girl when u can. But don't forget to hold your head high. Don't let the instigators and gossipers see you down. Prove them wrong. You're strong. Keep your head up.

Some days I want to take time off work but I know I would just waste away crying with the torture of missing him... there's no point in doing that. I am saving my time for the court dates ahead.. So I can be there when he needs me most. I may be falling apart but I will be there for him. I always have been... Its ok to be judged. I am ok with that. I have a still backbone that is nearly impenetrable.. My love for him makes this all worth it. Yes this is a traumatic event and emotionally I'm not holding my own. I'm just going thru the motions and falling behind in everything else.