Families of Prisoners Support Group
This community is dedicated to families that have been disrupted by prison. Having a loved one incarcerated or having been incarcerated comes with its own unique challenges that require support and understanding. Join the group to find others who know what you're going through, and to seek advice or share your experience.
My boyfriend of 6 years just got sentenced today for 42 months in prison. He got pulled over in december of 2016 for DWI charge. He refused the breathalizer and had a restriction on his license. Two years of hearings and then a jury trial last month where he was found not guilty of a DWI but guilty of refusal and restriction. He refused the breathalizer because he knows those arent accurate but wanted a blood test but for some reason they didn't do that. He has had priors in the past, plus living in shitty MN where the laws are ridiculous he now is in jail then going to prison.
This is my first time having to deal with something like this. I don't know how to deal with it. I feel so empty and alone. I am the only child and my family is in other states. I just want support and friends to help that are going through what I am going through. It just sucks knowing that when he goes to prison he might be sent hours away and I might not see him for a long time. It sucks being with someone for 6 years and then suddenly they are taken away from you just on speculation not on proof. I miss him so much, 3 years seems like an eternity, I can't imagine what he is going through. It hasn't even been a day yet and it seems like it it an eternity already.
I’m at a Transitional center, and my Fiancée and I wrote as much letters and talked on the phone for nearly 3 years. It will be challenging, no doubt, but remain active in talking to eachother as much as you. We’re here for you, I know how lonely it can be.
Be prepared to cry alot at first, then it gets less.
Phone calls and visiting become the highlight of your life
I also felt so alone. My family doesn't live close at all.
Keep busy it does help.
And if you do this it gives you things to talk to him about.
Ask for his advice on things. He needs to still feel he is a part of your life.
See if he can do craft projects in there. It gives him something to focus on and feel good about.
Minnesota prisons aren't that bad. My fiance was in them. The worst place is St Cloud where they get sent to first. It's going to be about 3months there. Unless its changed he'll be locked down most of the day.
As soon as he's there have him find out how you get the application for the visits. That will take a few weeks to get accepted.
It's been ten years since mine was in Minnesota prisons. Some things may have changed some. Visits are pretty much a quick hug and tiny kiss. You sit across from each other.
We moved to Wisconsin and visiting us better there. You sit at tables, can play cards and games and buy them pop and snacks.
None if it is ideal but at least you get to see each other.
My son's in trouble now. He's been out 8 years, has 4kids so it's terrible he's going to be back in prison in a few months.
My fiance was in several times. In Minnesota and Wisconsin. So yes, I have went through alot during the times he was gone.
It did make me a stronger person and more independent.
If you ever want to talk to me more send me a private message.
I hope I didn't make you feel worse.
Good luck