Families of Prisoners Support Group
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Its been three days since he's called me or his parents/kids... I worry about him when gets quiet. He hasn't sent any letters and now isn't calling... I thought our last call was good but I guess not since he's gone so quiet... I'm never going to be ok with the space between us... the distance this has created... I used to think we could tell each other everything but now there is so much going on for him that I think he keeps it all to himself... I open up to him as much as I can .... I just hate being in the dark so much when all I want to do is hug him closer and tell him itll be ok. we'll make it through this... each day is a test... my heart grows closer and more in love with him....I miss him so much... I know many are in the same situation... I just don't know what to do anymore... I took a 2nd job but I feel like its taking away from my really good paying job... I feel that I should let it go so I can spend more time working my time and a half vs reg pay at a part time that pays less than half of what I'd make elsewhere... I just don't know what to do with myself anymore... I don't know what to do to ask him to call...to write... he says that he will write a lot and he has my number...I have asked him to call at least evert couple days...he's been good about it till now... I suppose that makes me sound selfish...but I just want to hear his voice...to know that he is ok... I can't do this without him...he makes me strong.....
Yes he will keep some stuff from you whilst his in there coz he doesn't want to worry you more then what you are already. He will call when he can and as for the mail well it gets a bit messed up from time to time.
As for the second job you have well that's your call as to what your going to do with it.
Hang in there.
Cmorton, I hope you're feeling better today. This is a process- gaining strength, patience and faith. We all have days when we feel down, but as time passes those days will come less often, and/or you'll feel stronger and better able to cope. I've been doing this for seven months now, and it has gotten less insane. I still get very lonely but I have pretty much gotten my act together. I am working and going to the gym and taking this one day at a time. I think you'll feel much more capable after a month or two. Keep working, keep taking care of yourself and your kids, and be strong for yourself and your relationship. Try to have faith- the more you believe that things will be okay, the more likely they really will be okay.